My boyfriend of 4 years is bipolar. I've known this but didn't really know what it meant until just recently when he became manic. For the first two years, I thought everything he was doing was a result of his alcohol consumption......then he quit drinking. He had to..he is on felony probation for DWI. After he quit, he had a period of "normal" mood..then a hypomanic episode....then seven months of depression...now severe mania:( I did all I could to help him through his depression. I was learning about depression...not bipolar. I had no idea. I wasn't too alarmed with the hypomania. Anyway, he has spent an unreal amount of money, put for sale signs up in front of our home, argues with everyone. He is super paranoid about me. His "friends" and family just ignore what he is doing and wait for him to "come down". I was the only one who was there for him through his depression, I know he would want someone to help him right now. I've talked with his Dr (general....he won't see a PDoc)I've talked with his probation officer after I found him passed out in a parking lot..drunk, puke down the front of him, money and papers blowing all over the place, beer cans everywhere, truck running, lights on, door open and him slumped over the wheel:( Then he got up and jumped in my car and didn't bring it back until the next morning when he showed up at our house yelling at me because he wanted the keys to his truck. I had to get home somehow. He is making up all of these lies. He says everyone else is telling him that he's fine and I am the only one who thinks there is anything wrong with him....therefore I am the one who is "nuts". He has told his Dr not to talk with me anymore. When this started, I was in contact with everyone...his friends and family. I tried to put a support group together but they all bowed out and decided to wait for him to "come down". Now I am alone....he was depressed for 7 months over the hypomanic episode he had last summer, I can't imagine what he is going to feel like when he comes down from this! He is so angry with me for trying to get him help. He has basically alienated me all together. This has been going on for a month and a half now. I talk to him every couple days. They aren't usually good conversations. He is totally irrational. He has everyone believing that this is a relationship problem and not his bipolar. Our relationship was fine before this mania. I guess I'm not really sure if these people believe him or not. He gets furious if he fings out I talk to "his" friends. They have called ME asking what is wrong with my boyfriend. I'm not sure if he's taking it or not but he is on 200 mg of Lamictal daily....that's it:( He has started drinking again too:( So basically, he's not being treated at all? Are there signs that he is coming down? He seems a little calmer, but I think it's because of the alcohol? Does depression follow mania? At least he'll get help when he's depressed. I have thoughts of leaving him but this is not him. I love him and feel I should do all I can before I make a decision like that. How long do I wait? What do I do? He is so paranoid about me. Sorry for my rant:) I don't know what to do. Any advice???
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