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Bipolar and tring to clean house(of unwanted)

deleted_user
deleted_user
Okay, here is my deal, and I want y'alls honest opinions...please. My husband and I moved into a house about 4 months ago. My brother moved in with us just to get on his feet etc, which i didn't mind i love my brother to death. Well, anyway...I do all of the housework, cook and clean for them, do their laundry, everything I can do to make their lives easier since i do not work and they do work and pay all of our bills. Well, about a month ago, "my friend" started seeing my brother and without warning just moved in. She works, but says she has absolutely no money to contribute to the house hold, which i said was fine because my brother was going to pay her half, even if i do think that is entirely and rediculously soon for him to be doing that! ANyway, she does NOTHING and by nothing i mean absolutely nothing...She will not help clean around the house, she doesn't know how to cook or says she doesn't she won't clean the bathroom, and won't or will not do a number of other things i feel she should be doing!!!! Well, tonight i talked to her about it and she got very mad!!! Am I wrong?
deleted_user
deleted_user
nope, your space, your rules!
tommymott
tommymott
You're in the right as far as I'm concerned. Everyone should be doing their share and noone, especially you, should be expected to do it all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you kidding or what? If she doesn't want to help out you should tell her to move out immediately. Why should you have to be a maid to everyone. Stand up before it gets to out of hand and you explode in total anger.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You've got enough going on without taking care of a grown child. If she lives in your household she should be contributing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If she doesn't contribute to the household in SOME way she should go. If your brother is paying extra for her to live there, then she should expect to be treated as the men in the household - who do nothing. It's hard to ask HER to do something you don't expect the 'boys' to do. Is it that she's a woman and should do these things? Just thinking...
peace, t
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry, did she have princess tattooed on her forehead or does she wear a crown? Hmmm...someone has been spoiled.

Hey, it's YOUR home. She can put out or get out. Her anger isn't about you - she knows she's moochin' and in the wrong! GRRRR...let's kick some arse! :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with ttatum
deleted_user
deleted_user
no I dont think that you are wrong at all...Its hard enough keeping house when you are bipolar...Other than cook(hubby loves too)I do everything. But it is just us and the kids...they also know when I get into one of my cleaning frenzies to get out of the way...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hmmm...good point Tatum! Obviously, I didn't think of it that way!
deleted_user
deleted_user
been there, done that. put my foot down... "guests don't have guests." you need your space before it ruins your relationships.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your house your rules. You are not wrong she should contribute at least something.
deleted_user
deleted_user
And can you really call her your friend when she just showee up and never left? Seems like your name is doormat around there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You're certainly not wrong. She has alot of nerve getting mad at you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell her to help or get out. Excuses come by the dozen
deleted_user
deleted_user
You have a full time job,too. It's keeping yourself sane. Your husband (who loves you )should not want to do anything to add to your life's burden. Unless you two agree you need the extra money, he should ask both of them to leave. If yall need the money,the four of you should sit down and go over the house rules that you and your husband lay down. I say get rid of the lazy witch reguardless. And I believe that everyone should do his part(even MEN). But I will have to admit that there are lots of times I hide under the covers and can do nothing. I,too, live with my husband ,brother and son. And (GOD love him) my addopted brother is the sanest and most productive of us all.
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