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Bi Polar Disorder and Predatory Adoptions

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I have scoured the internet and I can not find ONE place where parents with a mental illness can support each other for their decision NOT to go through with a really shady adoption.

How hard is it????? Almost every website, forum, or support group is for adoptees, adoptive parents, or perspective parents who were victims of failed adoption. Every one of them can freely share their pain oh how nice for them! God bless them, but its like this tight little club where birth mothers and fathers are some times characterized as worthless, selfish, people. I know there are positive stories out there, but I find it appalling that the birth mothers are hardly ever heard from - especially the ones with a mental illness! I'm really getting irritated.

I know there are other people out there who had the presence of mind and the courage to over come obstacles in order to provide a loving home and stable, nurturing environment for their child. That is me. I am VERY proud of the fact that said no to those crooked, predatory adoption agency, especially after reading the law, and so many stories about the pain of women who followed through on really bad adoption situations and have been burned.

I am so close to devoting a few hours and some money to build my own website devoted to this. Matter of fact the more I think about it, the more I think its worth it.

I had the presence of mind to recognize the lies, ugliness, and predatory nature of the adoption agency that cultivated my fear of my own mental illness. I just wish I could find others with bi polar disorder who can celebrate this decision and to find solace in knowing that there are others who wished they had made the same choice.
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I have heard of women being preyed on in certain circumstances and coerced into giving their child (or children up for adoption) I have not heard of it directly from someone with a mental illness per se - normally just very young mothers. I am sure it has been done though - nothing surprises me. I know of women who were on medicaid who were very young being coerced into getting their tubes tied, and not told of alternatives which would be unheard of had the same patient had private insurance. I think the doctors thought they were doing the patient a favor. Disgusts me.
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Oh and I am glad you got your child back - I peeked at your profile :-)

from what I have read - adoption agencies are out to make money in the end. There are some videos on youtube about this topic as well.
tommymott
tommymott
I don't know much about the adoption racket, but I commend you for your decision to keep your own family intact. I don't think having a mental illness means a person can't be a good parent. All we need is love and love doesn't care about mental illness.
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