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Beepers raising kids...VENT

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deleted_user
Ok I have been reading through the threads...I came across something that pissed me off...There was comment relating to beepers raising kids...

Why shouldnt we raise children. Last time I checked it was still my right to have children and raise them in a loving, caring save home.

Who in there right mind would want to take anyway anyones right of raising children. There is enough wrong done to children in this world by NORMAL people without deciding that as beepers we do not have the right to raise children.

What fucking planet did you grow up on to decide that with every other prejudice that we face as beepers that you or anyone else has the right to question whether we should raise children or not.

To been shown prejudice by a normal is expected but to have it shown by what is meant to be one of my own is not only heartbreaking and damn right offensive.

I was aised by what is a normie I was beaten regularly, I was sexually abused I was kicked out of home when I was 12 and lived on the streets until I was 16 got clean and lead a productive life. To suggestion that I shouldnt be raising children is beyone the realms of my imagination.

I have never hurt or abused my children. I have never put my children at risk and I have never allowed anyone to hurt or mistreat them.

If I have caused offense and get kicked off of the board I really dont give a shit...But to pass judgement on me or any other beeper who is a parent is disgusting.
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who said such a thing . I am currently trying for a baby I have bp and borderline personality disorder. I am also a kind loving person I am the only one in my family with a mental health issue (and i have a twin) so it does not neccessarily mean that the disease will be passed on there are pleny of "normal " people who are terrible parents I am really curious to know witch genius said this
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deleted_user
i raised my two kids on my own. i never abused them. i wasn't a perfect parent but i know i did something right. my son is 20 and my daughter 18. they are amazing. already they are more focused on life and makin it in this world than i have ever been. their spirits are gonna soar and they will make a difference in this world. i couldn't ask for more.
deleted_user
deleted_user
How about we let the genius reveal themselves...The mere thought that one of our know would say such a thing or infer or suggest that we shouldnt have children is disgusting.
To decide yourself that you dont want children or cant have them is one thing but to have someone say you cant or shouldnt is enough to make my blood boil...
TKVanGogh
TKVanGogh
I'm bp-single mom of a bp, and was raised by a self-medicating bp. I'd be aapprehensive recommending it.
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My doc explained to me the theories behind Manic depression, the science and human heartbreak.My diagnosis hit hard.

He then said " I have to recommend you NOT to have children "
I leaned forwards in shock.

" I understand " I said... " .." It's because of the genetics and stuff you just mentioned !? "

" Weeell...not really " he uttered.." It's cos you're an ugly bastard ! "
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes but the choice was still there for you...Imagine if some biggot could take your right or choice away from you...
deleted_user
deleted_user
well my ex's take on it is the kids would be better with him! but i have a mental health officer who visits me on a regular basis , n says it would be ridiculous to take somebodys kids of them for bein bp , he comes from the social work department , n he says my kids r the most polite , well looked after kids, he says that if my ex could help rather than just tryin to cause aggravation, n thats even with me in the state i was in yesterday , it was nice to hear him say , right so your feelin bad , but the kids have been feed , bathed n they're happily playin , we just need to find a way to give you whatever support you need , not because you cant look after the kids , but because your honest enough to admit when the bp is takin over , and he then proceeded to tell me when he was hospitalized himself , cause he was ill , doesnt make him a bad father
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Me and my husband are good loving people and we are having such a hard time getting pregnant and there is so much trash out there who get 4 or 5 kids who they dont take care of this subject also makes my blood boil... so what is this person trying to say because we have bp we should just sit around and rot until we die I DO HAVE BP BUT MOST OF THE TIME I AM HAPPIER THAN MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE NO MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS i feel a nasty debate comming on
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I raised 4 children born within 4 years of each other and am now raising one grandchild and helping raise two others.While they are not perfect, they are mostly responsible members of society and parents to thier own children.

It triggers quite a few people to be told how and what they can or can not do in thier own life.
deleted_user
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If BP wasent such a genetic part of the disease .. i fear passing this down. I may not pass it down ..but I watched my mother and grandmother both suffer so much ..it's a shame. My mother was selfish because she had so many problems when I was a child ..she depended on ME all the time and it wasent fair. I deserved more ..i had to grow up to fast. I guess im just not stable enough ..im not sure If i will ever be.are there any stable beepers ?? I dont know of
any .. i would be too overprotective to save them from themselves. it's a tough situation. Ill give it more time ..see where life brings me first
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i would love to know who said this. if they are so confident in their opinions let em stand up try to defend them.
TKVanGogh
TKVanGogh
My pdoc told me I can't have a puppy, he fears I'd neglect it when depressed... Should I be outraged?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm not the best mother in the world, but I'm a damn sight better than most sane parents round here!!!! My kids are polite, always have a smile on their faces, very popular kids. They may not always get to school when I'm sick, they may have cereal for dinner some days and yes I have a habit of forgetting to put their reading books in their bags, bu t there is a lot of love, and a lot of laughter in this house. I see a lot of automaton kids, tidy house, perfect grades but no compassion, no flair, THEY are the kids I feel sorry for.
joybells
joybells
I am bipolar as we all are here and I have raised 2 children of my own without any problems.my son will be 18 in june and my daughter will be 16 soon.they are making very good grades in school and have never been abused in any way except by their father who is considered normal.Just because we are BP it doesn't mean we can't be great parents.
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tell you what though all chloe's friends love comin to my house , when dale was born i looked after another two kids that satyed up the estate , they never wanted to go home , i felt bad for their parents at times, they called me jellybean, there parents knew i was bp but never had any qualms bout leavin their kids with me x
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