I haven't read your previous post but I just wanted to say its okay to change therapist if you have an issue with one, I change them often and its for the better.

I don't think that will help. I would just be starting over and I can't imagine doing that.

If you're really that obsessed with him, seeing him may be doing more harm than good. I think you should really consider a new therapist.

ugh
I feel like someone just died.

Shen, he will understand.
I've had these conversations with therapists before. They get it. They get why we feel this way.

The thing you do need to accept is that he will not be able to reciprocate those feelings. because it is unethical.

I finally told my one t. how i felt right before he closed his practice. i sat on his couch & cried & told him he was breaking my heart.

then he told me he'd had feelings for me too.

THAT was fucked up and unethical. you don't want him telling you that. it'll fuck with yr head later on.

go see him.

I already wrote to him and cancelled my appt.
Now I feel like it's just over.
Maybe I am being silly, but I don't do this. I don't get hung up on people like that. I always bail on situations that get too intense and I don't know how to go on with this one. I just wish i hadn't said anything.

shen, i can imagine how you feel. i think people here gave good advice. i didn't read your last post, but i can figure from here what its about.

my np is female, and i have this motherly/sisterly feeling about her. god, i've told her more than ANYONE including best friend's husbands.

i did, however, write her an email a while back about hearing voices and seeing things... by my next appointment, i wanted to die and was afraid to see her. but everything worked out. she didn't judge me.. just treated me the same as always.

*hugs*

Shen, it's all part of the process.

Just let it ride out.

Get a box of tissues and maybe ask yourself, "What do these feelings remind me of?"


Then listen to that little voice within and listen and listen and listen.

And be prepared for the tears.

Hugs

I have never cried in front of my therapist.
I dont cry in front of anyone.

am I the only one that never cries in front of my therapist?

why don't you cry in front of your therapists?

I don't cry in front of anyone.
I just don't do that.
Am I really the only one?

I have to admit, I had plenty of silly comments on you dilema, but then thought this is a serious issue for her......

SO

All the time you have spent with this person, chipping away at bits and pieces of what makes you tick, and you are just gonna drop him? Cause you feel love for a person (ok maybe its lust) that helped you specifically address your issues? I know it sucks, but tell him.... work through that one too. God knows don't be a quitter like me....sheesh, SOME of us have to make it to give hope to others

No, I don't cry in front of therapists, either. Not sure why.

I don't really know the right thing to tell you, but just from reading what you've said, it seems like you should be comfortable w/your therapist. This relationship doesn't sound like a healthy one to me... and maybe you should try and find a new therapist, even if that seems hard right now. At least you'd have someone to talk to without having all these charged emotions to deal with.

Well my insurance is out so if I am going to find someone new I will have to wait until next year.
I have muddled through all this before I guess I can do it again.
I will just miss him so much.