Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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deleted_user
deleted_user
Is it just me, or does it seem like many bp's, such as myself, have had bad relationships, and alot of relationships over the years. I'm 21 and I've have alot of relationships, more than someone my age should have and I'm wondering is it an ok thing or should I get down on knees and start praying right now?????
BipolarPrincess
BipolarPrincess
I think you're pretty normal. I've been with over 21 people till I finally settled down and found a husband who knew how to take care of me and my bipolar self.
freeheeler
freeheeler
I think we do have more relationships than other folks. The ups and downs are hard on our partners. Also, we just don't have very long attention spans when we are manic.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I just sometimes find myself wondering if I'm ever gonna find someone that will be what I need them to be. I've been in so many relationships, I just wonder if anyone is gonna want me after i've been with so many people.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm 21 too and I have only had one relationship last more then a month, it just takes time
beckyp
beckyp
I think it depends on why you think these relationships ended. Was it you and your bp or was it the guys? Maybe it is something you can explore in therapy so when you do meet the guy you will be ready for him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well I can honestly tell you, it was more the guys than me. They were assholes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats all I seem to find is assholes... never any good guys...
starfish
starfish
BP definitely plays a role in the relationship realm...in fact, that is one of the criteria for diagnosis, is the severity of difficulty in relationships, including employment.

Prayer is always a good idea, and the sooner, the better.

I know if I had been praying more, and more in tune with God's "still, small voice" I would have avoided a lot of catastrophe in my life.
starfish
starfish
As far as the quality of guys goes, we tend to attract ourselves to the kind of fathers (or mothers, in the case of guys) we had.

Do you find any similarities?

If so, you are not stuck with them, you've just got to watch out for them!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Might be worth a go..haha..no there are lots of happily married couples dealing with BP..there are loads of them here..takes work, perhaps...nothing good comes easy..
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes I do find similarities my father was an abusive alcoholic to my mother, he isnt anymore, and I seem to find the dead beat guys that have more problems than i do.
freeheeler
freeheeler
ok ladies, I need an answer here: Why are you all drawn to terrible guys? I've noticed that nice guys finish last in the dating game.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i know that i'm effed. right now i'm that terrible ex that just cannot get over it, and calls too much, and cries, and will not leave well enough alone.

i cannot believe that i'm that person, but i've put everything that i had into this thing for the last four years, and i have no idea what to do without it.

fuck, i'm that scary person.
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