No you're not crazy, I would not have been so understanding if any girlfriend of mine spent like an hour with her exe like that

No you are not over reacting I think going out side and leaping on both of thier faces would not be over reacting. What the fuck was his explaination as to why they needed to converse?

I agree with Lindel. What was his explanation? I would be Pissed!!

She needed closer. fuck her its been three years. he says she kept following him into rooms telling him they needed to talk. so what would have stoped her for fucking him she alreay disrespected me and he pretty much told her that was ok when he snuck away with her. you don't do that when I am there in the fucking house with you. the worst part was all of his friends knew where he was and I was left alone with his friends feeling like a complete asshole.

Well on one hand he didn't go out and see her on the sneak. You were there in the house, dosn't make it ok though. What a bitch she is as well and yes no respect for your relationship. Him too though he is the one who owes you respect. If something would upset the person you love then you don't do it. I'm way to pissed off right now for you but I will think of something healthier to suggest in awhile.

Why are most guys so dumb??

I have no idea. I'm done thats it. how am I ever going to trust him again? I can't believe he would do something like this. He snuck out. I was in the other room she walked out the door first and then he followed her out. I was in the other room with my friends little sister and I didn't know he walked out. I didn't figure it out until almost a half hour later.

Whenever I saw my ex girlfriends they usually ran for their lives.

She is cultivating her lost relationship with him. And he is allowing this to happen. That means he likes the idea of dumping you and going back to her.

Beat him to the punch and give him a very cold shoulder until you both talk.

Simon, Lawyer, Relationship counselor, pdoc, therapist, sex therapist, and doctor.

What is he saying to you besides your crazy. Oh how I hate that one phrase. Your nuts your jealous your physco, by the time they are done they have you apologizing. Think twice about how you act right now being that you live there. Don't through him back in her arms. Then you'll hear well you said it was over, what do care??

We'll I'd say you aren't crazy, I'd say your jealous. Both of my husbands X girlfriends were at our wedding. He corresponds with them regularly and they both come to my house for get togethers. I am also still friends with some of my old boyfriends and correspond with several of them by email and see them at parties sometimes. So, it comes down to this, Do you want a good relationship with him or do you want to fight? If he says its over, why don't you believe him? Have you tried to be friends with her? I'm friends with both of my husbands X girlfriends and he's friends with some of my old boyfriends? Trust is a hard thing to learn and accept. I'd think about it long and hard before I blew up and destroyed a good relationship, if you want to salvage what you have.

That's completely unacceptable. Life is too short to waste time with anyone who disrespects you. There are some decent men out there who would treat you better; maybe it's time to move on. If it were me I would just say "next"....

i would have gone outside and made a scene. i think you are totally in the right here and he is the crazy one for believing that he did nothing wrong!

You say you cant ove one because you need him to be living with him money wise? Then just stay there and stiop the relationship if you want to and dont move out?

Most men are jerks when it comes to exs and past girlfriends!!! i would imagine that he felt he wasnt doing anything wrong but he was blinded by the pursuit of a female. I would almost say he thought it was neat at a party with my gf and my ex is chasing me around!!! Granted some men aren't like that. But anyway, if he did this then he might when faced in the same situation do something else if you know what I mean!!

I think you know damn well you're not overreacting. You just wish that you were, because that would mean nothing is 'really' wrong.
What he did was, if nothing else, disrespectful to you.
And generally, that sort of behavior is a strong indication that something more is going on than you are being made aware of.
He 'sneaked' out? Always a bad sign if your SO is hiding anything.
She wanted to talk? Fine. But he should have told her to find someone else to talk to, that it would be inappropriate for him to be the one to do so.
And to minimize the incident, trivialize your feelings, and then turn this around so that the problem is you, is yet another slap in the face.
Regardless of how this plays out, start making plans on what you'd do and where you'd live, if you didn't have your fiance in your life.
'I can't even leave him I have no where to go' should not be a factor in this situation.
Do NOT marry this man until you have a healthy, stable relationship set in place.
The problem isn't just this one incident; It's the fact that this incident highlights the kind of man he is .
He sneaks, he lies, doesn't value or respect your feelings, and is not above trying to get you to second guess what you believe just so he doesn't have to answer for his actions.
This is a very serious and important part of your life. See it for what it is and act accordingly.
Don't brush it off and just hope that things like this won't happen in the future.
Good luck!!! I hope you get it all worked out!!!