Sounds like you ae makeing a judgement.
Judge not lest ye be judged.

Yes often was more than sex was romance and love I would reccommend a less judgemental approach to life

So you think it's okay. My dad is leaving My mom for another woman he's been having an affair with.. I'm upset and wondering is there brothers or sisters I don't know about too?

Yes, when I was single I did. It was the worst mistake of my life. Turned our horrible (what did I expect?). He later committed suicide but not because of the affair.

I would not be in a relationship with someone who is already married. Like I said worst mistake I ever made.

I don't mean to sound judgemental just hurt right now! I feel lied to.

Well, I've never had an affair, but would be sooo devestated if this happened to me, and I'm so sorry to hear about it. I'll pray for you!

I guess it depends on someone's definitio of black and white, right and wrong, none of the above (we are just floating in the moment). There is that whole "thou shalt not commit adultery" thing. But even if that is deemed irrelevant, there is the "thou shalt not take thy spouse's heart and smash it on the floor" thing. I say this because I cheated on my H while manic (mania was NOT an excuse, just a time frame). I have watched my husband's heart break and seen him try to suffer through forgiving me. So yeah, call me judgemental. It's wrong.

for me, relationships with other people in general are tough. My marriage fell apart 8 years ago. I had my part in it, she had hers, but it took me a long time to get there.

Bottom line is, the statistics in America are that 50 % of marriages end up in divorce.

What's that tell you about the state of affairs in this country.

I grew up in a world where you didn't divorce, it was for better or worse richer or poorer. That why marriage should be banned anyway.

A bp mind tends to wander and look for stuff that isnt there business and may not even be there.
You dont know why your dad left . maybe you should ask him. maybe the marriage was dead and he needed out. You just dont know and maybe you dont even need to know why.It just is what it is .
No use in obssesing on it. there is probably some good in the situation.
Maybe he is going to be happy now.
It is hard on kids. Do you wonder if it was something that you did to drive your parents apart

Amen to that!

I was young, barely 20 and stupid.
To make matters worse I fell in love w/him.
...don't even go there...

Dont worry matt I'm not obsessing. Just happend I'm tying to cope with it all. I know cest la vie!

I was just worried about you.
I know sometimes I get something in my head.I just spin those thoughts up there andcan get sick. Wondering whats goin on. who did what . what if I did this.

What a terrible sense of betrayal I had when my father did this to my mother. It affected me for life. I was 12 yo and didn't understand a thing. I felt abandoned and off balance. I feel for you. Who knows if the affair will even last. You're in for a roller coaster of emotions. If you need to talk, I'm here. peace, teresa

No they've never gotten along but still. They are all each other has and all I've known.. I know my mom is hurting and my Dad doesn't give a fuck. He's bipolar and in denial or self-medicated.