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moonwater
I have some wonderful news to share, but first for those of ya'll who don't know me I'm gonna do a quick recap.
I lost my Grandma 2 days before Christmas last year. She and my Grandpa (who passed away a little over 14 years ago) raised me since I was 3. Although my mom was still around they were pretty much my parental figures. My Grandma also became my best friend as I got older.
I was still going through a nasty divorce when my Grandma died. Before she passed away though we talked a lot about the name change I wanted as I did not intend to keep the EXes and had no interest in going back to my biological father's last name because we have no relationship. I never felt right with his name.
It took some time, a lot of paperwork, and an apperance in court, but as of last Thursday I officially & legally have my grandparent's last name.
Of course a big part of this is sentimental and in memory of them, but at the same time I feel like I finally have the name I was always meant to. It feels so natural, even signing it was no adjustment.
I could feel them smiling down on me as I cried happy tears when I left the judges chambers.
I wasn't anywhere near this happy to have taken on my EXes name when we married and I was in love with him.
This is so different, and so much more special. Almost like coming home. And even if it is just a word on a piece of paper I feel like my grandparents are even closer to my heart than before if that's possible.
Over the past couple years I've gone through a lot of tough times, and my Grandma was my rock for most of it. She helped me discover that I was much stronger than I ever imagined. And although I still have much sadness from losing her I've grown even stronger learning to live day by day with only being able to hold her in my heart; just as I have had to do with my Grandpa whose death had also devistated me.
I feel like I'm carrying even more of their strength with me now, not only in my heart but in my whole person. It's kinda like they are now even more than loving memories, they will always, always be a part of my life.
Maybe that sounds crazy, but it is so very special to me and I feel like I am at the beginning of a positive turning point in my life now.
I just really wanted to share this.
I lost my Grandma 2 days before Christmas last year. She and my Grandpa (who passed away a little over 14 years ago) raised me since I was 3. Although my mom was still around they were pretty much my parental figures. My Grandma also became my best friend as I got older.
I was still going through a nasty divorce when my Grandma died. Before she passed away though we talked a lot about the name change I wanted as I did not intend to keep the EXes and had no interest in going back to my biological father's last name because we have no relationship. I never felt right with his name.
It took some time, a lot of paperwork, and an apperance in court, but as of last Thursday I officially & legally have my grandparent's last name.
Of course a big part of this is sentimental and in memory of them, but at the same time I feel like I finally have the name I was always meant to. It feels so natural, even signing it was no adjustment.
I could feel them smiling down on me as I cried happy tears when I left the judges chambers.
I wasn't anywhere near this happy to have taken on my EXes name when we married and I was in love with him.
This is so different, and so much more special. Almost like coming home. And even if it is just a word on a piece of paper I feel like my grandparents are even closer to my heart than before if that's possible.
Over the past couple years I've gone through a lot of tough times, and my Grandma was my rock for most of it. She helped me discover that I was much stronger than I ever imagined. And although I still have much sadness from losing her I've grown even stronger learning to live day by day with only being able to hold her in my heart; just as I have had to do with my Grandpa whose death had also devistated me.
I feel like I'm carrying even more of their strength with me now, not only in my heart but in my whole person. It's kinda like they are now even more than loving memories, they will always, always be a part of my life.
Maybe that sounds crazy, but it is so very special to me and I feel like I am at the beginning of a positive turning point in my life now.
I just really wanted to share this.
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