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Why our loved ones get taken away

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Hello. First time posting here. Although I never had to deal with losing lives of direct family members, I had experience of losing few close relatives and the agony/pains/sufferings it brings upon people. I recently became philosophical and tried to understand why life works the way it works.
No one wants to lose our loved ones. Nobody wants to see anyone endure the pains/sufferings of losing family members/close ones. I wonder what the reason for all this suffering is. And why certain people, not others? Also, is life supposed to be unpredictable and not make sense?
Thanks in advance for any insights.
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I was raised Discordian, so when things make too much sense for too long, I start to get nervous.
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I wish I knew... I have blamed myself for my beloved's death for not acting sooner. I know I shouldn't, but I have for so long. I am not sure I know how not to.
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I think God has our lives all planned before we ever come to being.My story is alittle long but you ask so I shall tell. I have 3 children My son is 28, 8 yrs later I had a daughter,14 yrs later on my 40th b-day I found out I was expecting again, I thought God what are you thinking,Im 40 and not wanting to start over now,but of course 9 months later I gave birth to another beautiful baby girl.3 yrs ago my middle child Miranda was killed in a car accident,She was 17. Hannah my baby was only 3 at the time. So I know now why at 40 God wanted me to have another child,She has saved my life,I would not have ever made it with out her.Of course she is not a replacement child,as no one will ever replace Miranda,But she is my lifeline.
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I guess it just depends on an individuals beliefs. I have questioned this since the first loss of a loved one. I always wondered why as humans we were allowed to love so deeply in life so that it hurt so badly in death>? Why certain people>? I wish I knew, I do not understand the loss of anyone young and healthy. I know we all have to pass sometime, but so soon for some, I just can not reason it....
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When my son was five and ppl he loved died he would tell me MOMMIE THEY DIE AS GOD NEEDS GOOD PPL IN HEAVEN AND FOR BABIES TO BE BORN. AND WHEN THE FARIES TAKE OUR TEETH THEY GIVE THEM TO THE NEW BABIES THAT ARE BORN...

Never forget that story of why ppl are taken away from my 5yr old he is an adult now.
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well, to be honest, for me, death doesnt exist, because i dont believe the body is what i am , or what anyone is. if anything, its just a temporary experience of spirit. so i dont believe anyone ever leaves, they just change. i try to see the huge picture, instead of the limited one . thats just my belief. hugs to you.
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