Around the time you stopped dreaming about him, did something big change in your life? Did you reach a turning point in your greiving for him? I think dreams are another way our minds and bodies sort out our grief. I don't think its a bad thing that you're not dreaming about him anymore. Perhaps it means your mind is allowing you to let go of that part of your grief. But I understand why this would startle you. Just my guess... I'm no psychiatrist.

Maddysmom,
Nothing had changed I still can't understand this and I will never understand this It's like the dream just faded like he faded, This is the first time that I experienced death from a person that was very close to my heart so I don't understand alot that goes with the grieving process all I know is that this feeling is unsettling to be and it scares me to think that maybe I did something wrong to prevent the dreams from coming thru. I deeply thank you for your your input
RONI!

I have only had one dream since it happened (about my oldest boy smokeing) to see them agian even in a dream would be sweet. My condolances on the dreams.

Maybe it's time you each moved on?

Maybe at the time he knew you needed him there for you so he kept visitiny you through your sleep. When my second daughter was born, right around her 2 month mark I said to my mom I wished my grandma could see her, and when I took the very next nap my grandma was in my dream looking over at Paige sleeping in her crib, then when Paige started to wake up and cry, my grandma was gone. I think it was her way of showing me that yes she had seen the new great grand-daughter.
If you are really having a rough time sleeping now try talking to your husband out loud before you go to sleep. Tell him you miss him and would love to see him. Maybe he'll visit you again.
God bless you...

I hope my 1st answer didn't sound harsh. That's not how I meant it. When my husband 1st died I dreamed of him just a few times. Then in 1 dream he said he'd always be there for me, I yelled at him, but you're NOT here, you're gone, he vanished in the dream. I cried and cried and cried. It hurt so damn badly. I DO believe that maybe it IS time for both of you to move on. But, who am I to say. It took me 3 YEARS to accept the fact that my love was gone, another 2 YEARS to accept that he wasn't coming back. Only you can say when you are ready to move on. It's been 11 years this past Nov. and I just started dating. Only you can say. Maybe your head and heart need a break from the emotion dreaming of him causes. ?????????????????????????

When my husband died I had alot of dreams with him in them...he would tell me what to do to fix certain things or that he loved me. The dreams got further apart now he only comes to me when I have given up and dont know what to dowith the kids anymore or I cant get out of bed because of depression. I think it is his way of helping me get my act together for the kids and to let me know he is still watching me. Sometimes it helps to go to his grave and tell him all my troubles...he then shows up a few days later in my dreams and just hugs me.

i think all of who had dreams of your loved ones are very lucky i am still waiting my little girl was in 1990 my mom was 1992 my grandmother my grandfather and now my dad and im still waiting to have a dream with someone in it i think you should just give it some time and talk to him ask him to come back

I didn't dream about my husband right after he died, then when I did start, we would always be arguing, I think it is because I'm kind of angry with him for leaving me. I want to dream dreams about our happy times. I guess this really don't answer your question. Just sharing.