
Bereavement Support Group
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deleted_user
I joined DS because my husband had an accident and I needed others who have been through the loss of a spouse. My son has carried the guilt that he caused the accident. We all thought he was doing so much better and last night he shot and killed himself. My daughter in law called me just before 12 am and said he was threatening suicide and told her to get the baby and get out or he would kill them first. She got in her car and called me. As she was sitting there she told me that he had come out the door with the shotgun. I told her to leave, just drive away. I was half way there. I called him and he told me that he was tired of people making him feel like shit and he was tired of Tasha (his wife) and tired of me and that he was the reason his dad died. I told him that it wasn't his fault that it was an accident (you see he started cutting the tree and pinched his saw. His dad went to "fix" it and the tree fell on him) then his phone went dead. I tried and tried to call back but no answer. When I got there I stepped out of my truck and heard the fatal shot. Apparently, he had already shot the house up. I wasn't sure at that point if he was shooting at me to keep me away or if it was inside or outside. I called 911. They came and broke the door down but he was already gone. I was told it was quick if that's any solice. I'm just not sure of where to go from here. I haven't gotten over my husband yet and then this. I just need someone to tell me what now?

deleted_user
I am so sorry for your loss. The pain you must be going through. I hope just sharing your story with people who have gone through your situation will give you some solace. Please try and find as much support as you can. Whether it is with your family, your friends etc. Surround yourself with people that love you. I, too, have lost my son. It is very difficult and my heart goes out to you. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers...Lucy

deleted_user
I am so sorry for your loss..I dont know what to say it is such a tragedy what you are living through!

deleted_user
I am so sorry for your loss. My son did not commit suicide, but he did die in a car wreck several years ago. I know that the pain is so real. I thank you might need to get some special help from a councilor or someone like that. I will keep you & your family in my prayer...Love & hugs to you, Connie


cliffskat
That is so awful, and I am so sorry this has happened. The police or your local Victims Services office should be able to provide you and your daughter-in-law with some counseling or referrals to where you can get it. You and she are going to need professional help to get through this. Please do not try to go it alone. You've made a good decision to join the group here at DS for families affected by suicide, but you and Tasha are going to need extra support as this loss is not like any other. Sending you hugs and prayers at this terrible time...
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