It's not as good as it gets, but the strength of it will diminish. The periods between the anger will stretch out. We all want quick fixes, or even better, to roll back time. Hugs to you.

It is not our faught that quick fixes are what we seek. Society has turned to fast food, convient stores,online stores, microwave cooking. Everything now and I mean now I want it. I wish I could give a time table. But grief is not set up in that way. It is a road that keeps winding down into the distance, and each road is different, but shares similar scenery. As far as the anger goes, anger is an emotion that is like an onion. It only goes away by peeling the layers away. It doesn't happen all at once. Sometimes it will be easy to peal the layer others it will be hard. But in the end the peels will be laying there not a whole onion. I hope that makes sense.

Angry will go away when you release it.
Rent or buy the movie... "What the bleep do we know." It will change your view of death.

It's all still very new for you. When my Mom passed 18 months ago I was angry at everyone. Even people I didn't know. I'd go to the store, see old people or people dragging oxygen tanks and ask why it wasn't them instead. Why wasn't it one of her neighbors? Why not a murderer or child molester? My Mom had a family who loved her, she wasn't sick, so why did she have to be the one? I still have those thoughts, but not as often. Give yourself time.

it will get better in time. don't be so hard on yourself. let yourself experience each moment as it comes to you. wishing you well.

Yes you will go back to "normal", whatever that is for you. It justn takes our old friend "time" to make that happen. You'll be ok.

I too was angry when my brother passed away 10 months ago. It still comes and goes. Beneath the anger is hurt. Simply let it happen when it comes. All I can say is look for an outlet to put your anger INTO (in a healthy way, of course, without hurting anyone or yourself). A good aggressive sport is a great "letting off of steam". I bicycle a lot and engage in tennis bouts with friends. I too have found myself lashing out at loved ones for no reason at all, except that I'm feeling angry. I try to tell people to please bear with me; that I'm just going through a tough time. That's all you can do. It does get better with time, as you learn to incorporate the loss into your life, and you get used to the daily rythm of it. Eventually, as you fill your life and your soul with new people, the love energy you felt for your mother will go into them, and she'll be there for you too in spirit. It's just really frustrating not to be able to reach out and physically hug them or engage in conversations with them like you always did, I know. But imprint all the love of your soul onto others. Some will favorably respond, some won't, but eventually, you'll surround yourself with the right kind of people.

you need to figure out why you are angry???Are you angry @ your mom for leaving you?Being angry is ok if it is directed into the appropriare direction.Anger just for anger sake is never good.Is being angry your baseline?

i lost both my parents and grandmother this year. everyone grieves differently. no matter if sudden (like Dad) or expected (like Mom), it still hurts. i felt numb, redirecting my grief to bury in work, taking care of my husband, taking care of her affiars. unfortunately, i am realizing with the christmas season approaching, i miss her even more. miss my family even more. i broke down on my birthday, realizing that i wasn't going to get that birthday call from either of them.

so my point is, every person is different. as far as i know, no quick fixes, just coping skills. it should get better with time, so they say. i hope "they" are right.

Maggie,
I like being angry. When I am angry my grief is focused and I am not crying. When I become frustrated and lose control and have a crying "meltdown."

Yes, I prefer anger to uncontrollable hysterical sobbing. It is all perspective.

i lost my father, the pain of losseing a parent will never go away but it does get easer you will think of her when you see a mother and daughter but think of it in a good way. like i remmber when we did that kind of stuff. make her memmory a good one. and when you stop think of all the pain dont fell bad because it is you dealing with the pain.
it has been 2 years since my dad passed im telling you it does get easer....