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I have had it said to me a few times now that i should 'be over' the loss of my brother by now. (17 months ago now story on my journal)
I have so many things going on in my life other than that but most of it was due to my reaction to his death.
I have had it said to me that i dwell on it too much and i should be trying to bury it by now. i just dont feel i can.
Its almost like ppl are telling me i am playing on his death and using it as an ecuse for my behaviour.
What would you do? Should i start to ignore how i feel? or should i carry on talkign about it and airing my feelings?
I have so many things going on in my life other than that but most of it was due to my reaction to his death.
I have had it said to me that i dwell on it too much and i should be trying to bury it by now. i just dont feel i can.
Its almost like ppl are telling me i am playing on his death and using it as an ecuse for my behaviour.
What would you do? Should i start to ignore how i feel? or should i carry on talkign about it and airing my feelings?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve. If you feel like crying... cry. You do what you need to including bringing up his name and talking about him. Tell them it is part of the grieving process to talk about it.
My aunt lost a 2 week old baby 45 years ago and she is still not over it.
So let them think what ever they want but don't bottle up your feelings and emotions as you will never heal that way... Talk to those who understand here on DS and your pain will lessen.
I am very sorry for the loss of your brother and I will be saying a prayer for you today...
God Bless You,
Tim (Jenae's Dad)
http://jenae.gallegos.home.att.net
Just like after the funeral ppl thought cos he was gone and funeral done thats it draw a line and forget about it.
I just cant do it.
You dont owe anyone in this world an explanation for how you feel. You have every right to feel as you do. Some ppl deal w/ deal by ignoring it. Some ppl deal w/ it by completely shutting down. Then there are those of us (including myself) that take each new day as it comes. Some days are ok, some days are hard, and some days are unbelievable horrible.
Grief is not a thing that you get over, it becomes a part of your life that in time..months, years, decades...you learn to live with. It doesn't "get better", we learn to live with it, learn to move forward, learn to live without that person in our lives..it gets different...and we are different... honor your feelings, do things in your own time....(((hugs)))
What i do is " act normal" when I am out and then I go to DS and vent. Wishing you well.