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When does the hurting stop?

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It has been 6 months since my dad died and I miss him more now than ever. I cant think about him or a memory or about what happened without feeling worse. I feel like in some way, I failed him. That he tried to give me a sign and i ignored it. Also there were things he was doing i knew about and i didnt tell anyone or did i do anything to try to stop him. At the time i was taking the drugs with him, does that make me selfish? I dont anymore, take the drugs, but its too late for him and i dont think i will ever forgive myself for not telling our family.
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Your grief, your guilt, your pain, I can feel how overwhelming it is to you. Sometimes, "your damned if you do, and damned if you don't. If he was deeply addicted to something, he probably wouldn't have accepted your help. If you told your family, could they have helped or changed him? Probably not. WOuld they have listened to or believed you? I don't know because I don't know them.
Nothing you do now, can change what happened to him, but what you do now, can change what happens to you. I know it sounds like a broken record, but the pain lasts as long as it lasts. It's different for every one of us. Don't let yourself get too close to the edge of life. If you feel yourself slipping more deeply into depression over this, please, seek professional help. You are still here, and there must be a reason for it. Right now you are too blinded with grief and guilt to find out what that reason is.
I'm sorry for your loss, and sending huggs your way.

Rainbow
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