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What to do with a spouse....

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who doesn't acknowledge my grief?

I know he may have some grief of his own in regards to my father's death in August, but he has been totally negating my feelings. I am frustrated with this....pretty hurt too.

It's bad enough that I am dealing with this loss, add to it the fact that he isn't stepping up when I need help with the kids, house, etc. when I am just not feeling good. I get very angry, which I shouldn't do.

Sorry if it sounds selfish, but I really need a good support system and I am NOT getting it.
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So sorry about your loss and the lack of support you are getting from Hubby!!!
Maybe he just doesn't know what you need him to do. Some guys/gals just don't take hints very well. My hubby is one of those.
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I'm so sorry to hear this. Going through grief is hard enough, but if the person closest to you, is not there for you, what does that leave? I'm glad you are here, at least we can try to comfort you. I worry that his indifference will drive a wedge between you that won't be able to be removed. I will pray for you and him. HUggs Rainbowmama
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If he has never suffered a deep loss like yours he may be unable to comprehend what you are going through. Unless he knows exactly how it feels he won't be able to identify and be motivated to help out more.
We all grieve differently and so it is good if you can find a grief buddy who understands exactly how you feel as your husband probably can't identify right now.
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I am in counseling, which is good. I wish I was not so far away from my family and friends....I think that is making it really hard.
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I feel the same about my husband Ive been through grief of losing my son. Although it was 7 years ago it still effect my everyday life. And impacts our marriage due to the fact he doesnt support me emotionally at times when its abvious i need it.
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I'm sorry for your loss. SOme men just aren't "in tune" with our feelings and needs. Have you talked to him about this, telling him what you need from him? I know it's hard, but worth a try.
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