OOps i mean others say I cry too much. Sorry I am still trying to figure things out.

I lost my mom in May and people think that I have not moved on at all... I think no body really knows, you have to deal with it the best you can. Everyone says with time it will get better, so far, I find time is making it worse...Good luck, just let yourself feel what you are feeling, don't be concerned with what others are thinkins.

I have a quote sittingg right in front of me, that perhaps you can use.

"Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner."
}James Frey{

Who cares. Tell them to mind their own business - in a nice way.
You are in charge of your mourning not them.
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First I would like to say I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you.
Secondly, as far as what other people think...they aren't you. You are unique, your relationship with your mom was unique and how you grieve is how YOU grieve. Let your feelings out when you need too and as often as you need too. They are your feelings!!!! The love of my life has been gone for 10 months now. I was told "don't dwell on it by his brother". His brother hasn't had to bury his wife. He doesn't know how I feel. And honestly until he walks in my shoes, he never will.
You feel what you want honey and you express your feelings. Grief is a journey and you, like all of us, must go through it at your speed not someone elses.
God bless you and help you as you go through your journey.

Everyone has told me to grieve in my own way- it's a highly personal and individual thing. I have been thinking that I am not "sad enough" because 90% of the time I am fine. I have told my friends to just let me feel what I feel and tell me it's ok.

Ignore them. We all grieve in different ways. There is no "right" amount to cry, or measurable amount of "Upset". I've been seeing a psychologist, she's lovely, and reminds me that "outward signs of grief are not proportional to how much you loved your lost loved one." She's right. Trust your own needs, feelings, tears. Only you know what you feel and how you express it. Wish you the best, TwD

Personally I don't care what people tell me. i can not please everyone so i do what feels right to me.

It doen't matter what anybody thinks.. this is YOUR journey and no one else can join you or judge you, keep your head up and let your moms love flow through you

don't listen to them. when my mom told me my dad was dead, she just kept repeating (through spasms of tears) that it was ok to cry. well, i didn't cry.
i didn't deal with it.

you crying means you letting it out, which is good. don't listen to other people's judgment. they don't know what you need.
this sounds stupid, but when we put our dog down last year, i've never cried so much in my life. i cried, literally, all day. i cried at the restaurant, at a cafe, at my apartment.people were staring, but i let them. i couldn't stop, it was the worst day of my life. the most pain i'd felt at ever, but the next day a lot of that pain was gone. my body had been partly cleansed.

you deal with it in your own way. if your mother were right there, she'd understand you and what you need. Let yourself cry or not cry. Don't think about what is socially expected of you. these people are not you. only you know what you need. good luck with this. a mother is an important person. grieve that loss. don't analyze it, just be yourself and the person your mother loved.

was a few weeks pregnant when I lost my mom....I cried and then knew she was ok and knew I would be ok....when someone dies alot of people come out of the woodwork....you will cope in your own way and ABSOLUTELY NO ONE SHOULD BE TELLING YOU WHAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING WITH YOUR GRIEF..RIGHT HERE..RIGHT NOW..BE BY YOURSELF...it's a great time to really truly get to know yourself and what you will accept in your life and what you won't ...don't let anyone push you around,...hope this helps..good luck and God Bless!!!!!

As long as you are moving forward through your pain and emotions, not avoiding them, and not getting stuck in them (for too long, sometimes that happens for a while) you are doing fine.

Not everyone (probably those who think you are crying too much)understands grief, either because they have avoided going through the process themselves (which is not healthy) or they just haven't had a loss big enough to grieve over in their lives (which is unlikely if they are very old)

We all grieve in our own way, at our own pace.

The people in this community are wonderful and supportive and understanding.

I coped with my son's death by writing letters to him, even though I knew he was gone, it got the emotions out....and writing in my journal, and coming here to DS.

And also, a LOT of crying!!!!