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Some think I should be more upset and others say I don't cry enough. How do you all cope with this. I just lost my mom and don't need added stress because of others.
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"Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner."
}James Frey{
You are in charge of your mourning not them.
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Secondly, as far as what other people think...they aren't you. You are unique, your relationship with your mom was unique and how you grieve is how YOU grieve. Let your feelings out when you need too and as often as you need too. They are your feelings!!!! The love of my life has been gone for 10 months now. I was told "don't dwell on it by his brother". His brother hasn't had to bury his wife. He doesn't know how I feel. And honestly until he walks in my shoes, he never will.
You feel what you want honey and you express your feelings. Grief is a journey and you, like all of us, must go through it at your speed not someone elses.
God bless you and help you as you go through your journey.
i didn't deal with it.
you crying means you letting it out, which is good. don't listen to other people's judgment. they don't know what you need.
this sounds stupid, but when we put our dog down last year, i've never cried so much in my life. i cried, literally, all day. i cried at the restaurant, at a cafe, at my apartment.people were staring, but i let them. i couldn't stop, it was the worst day of my life. the most pain i'd felt at ever, but the next day a lot of that pain was gone. my body had been partly cleansed.
you deal with it in your own way. if your mother were right there, she'd understand you and what you need. Let yourself cry or not cry. Don't think about what is socially expected of you. these people are not you. only you know what you need. good luck with this. a mother is an important person. grieve that loss. don't analyze it, just be yourself and the person your mother loved.
Not everyone (probably those who think you are crying too much)understands grief, either because they have avoided going through the process themselves (which is not healthy) or they just haven't had a loss big enough to grieve over in their lives (which is unlikely if they are very old)
We all grieve in our own way, at our own pace.
The people in this community are wonderful and supportive and understanding.
I coped with my son's death by writing letters to him, even though I knew he was gone, it got the emotions out....and writing in my journal, and coming here to DS.
And also, a LOT of crying!!!!