My Mother died recently in a Hospice facility in Michigan. I had no place to stay up there to take advantage of their counseling. When I returned to my home state, I called the nearest listed in the phone book (none close to me). I called to see when & where they would be having a meeting & was given the date, time and directions. They asked for my name, address and phone number. I was really looking forward to attending as the only friend I felt I could share with here over the summer (I live in FL) is undergoing chemo and I would never add to her burdens with my grief. About an hour later, I received a call from someone else. She basically told me not to come - that my grief was too "fresh" and there would be another group in Dec. I am devestated. How can someone working for a group I thought would be helpful be so insensitive? Maybe you do get more out of their counseling if it comes later rather than sooner, but I'll never know because I'll never go there. They give you literature saying that grief is individual and you shouldn't expect to be at a certain level by a certain time & then tell you that you're not ready for a group because you're loved one hasn't been dead long enough???
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