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My name is Robin. I lost my middle son Matthew, aged 15 to a sudden and tragic drowning almost three months ago. Life as I've known it, is forever changed. What I believed in is forever changed. It's like my world has shifted and another layer has been added. And now I have to understand and find places for all the new things this new layer has added to my life. The agony of my loss is so profound and unlike anything else I've ever experianced. I'm just trying to prosses and understand what has happened. In doing so, I've discovered that what I believed in has changed most of all. I no longer believe in coinsidence. I believe there are no coinsidences in life. I believe in God or a higher power even more now. Let me explain : In loosing my son and all of the things that happend leading up to his sudden passing this is what I found and I can not dispute my own expiriance. Two weeks prior to my sons passing, he and his girlfriend went missing for three days. I was panicy totaly freaked out and worried for my child. I put out a missing pearson on him. I did alot of detective work and we were able to find out where the kids were. My husband and the step father of the girl went in the middle of the night to the worst most violent part of Memphis to look for the kids. I prayed that they would find them and bring them home. They found them but the drug dealer guy who owned the house said the kids were not there. My hubby told them that the police were notified and were looking for the kids. Anyway they were home the next day. What I'm getting at is that after my son passed, my oldest son Jason saw Sylvia Brown. And one of the things she said was, she asked Jason "wasent your brother missing two weeks prior to his passing?" to which Jason said yes. She then said that Matt was supposed to die then. But it got diverted for a little while. And God gave him two more weeks with us to say goodbye and make his wishes known. I am here to tell you THIS IS TRUE. In the two weeks prior to his death, and being home again, these things happened. One day my son walked into the house and promply told me : " Mom, if I die I want you to play that song CROSSROADS from Bonethugs n harmoney" I was suprised and I told him I hoped I'd go before him. And two days before he died we were going shoping like we did every saturday,and out of the blue he says " Momma, I believe that we live our lives over and over again,until we get it right. Thats how we earn our wings to go to heaven." I told him I believed the same way. I think that that was his way of saying goodbye to me and that he would see me again one day. I just didnt know it then. And he told his aunt the last time he saw her "dont count on it." when she told him see you later. So I believe that we live our lives the way God deemed us to. And things happen because they are suposed to happen the way they happen.
So my question is?: What do you believe? Please share.
God bless - Robin
So my question is?: What do you believe? Please share.
God bless - Robin
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NOW AS TO WHAT I BELIEVE....I TOO BELIEVE THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON ALTHOUGH WE DONT KNOW WHAT THAT REASON IS GOD DOES!!!!THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO MAKE ME AFFIRM MY BELIEFS....A YEAR BEFORE MY SISTERS DEATH,MY MOM AND MY SISTER MOVED AWAY TO WASHINGTON (MY OTHER 4 SISTERS AND 1 BORTHER ARE GROWN NOW AND HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES,HEATHER WAS THE ONLY ONE LEFT STILL AT HOME WITH MOM)SO HER AND MY MOM GOT TO SPEND SOME QUALITY TIME TOGETHER GETTING CLOSER AND SUCH...SHE EVEN IS THE ONLY ONE OF US KIDS THAT GOT TO GO TO THE OCEAN WITH MY MOM (WHICH WAS 1 OF MY MOMS WISHES FOR HER TO BE ABLE TO TAKE HER KIDS TO THE OCEAN BEFORE SHE DIES)THEN HEATHER MISSED EVERYONE HERE SO SHE CAME TO LIVE WITH ME FOR A WHILE SO THAT SHE COULD GO TO HER 1ST YEAR IN HIGHSCHOOL WITH ALL OF HER FRIENDS AND MY MOM MOVED TO KANSAS TO LIVE WITH MY SISTER ASHLEY SO THAT SHE COULD BE CLOSER TO FAMILY. I WAS TOO STRICT SHE SAID AFTER A FEW MONTHS (LOL) SO SHE MOVED IN WITH MY SISTER KIM(WHICH LIVED DOWN THE STREET FROM ME)AND STAYED THERE FOR ABOUT 6MONTHS OR SO, THEN THEY GOT EVICTED FROM THERE HOUSE AMONG OTHER THINGS THAT WERE GOING ON SO MY MOM MADE HEATHER MOVE BACK WITH HER (THIS WAS A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE HER DEATH)EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD AND SHE WAS NOW GETTING TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH OUR SISTER ASHLEY AND BROTHER BRYAN(WHOM SHE HADNT REALLY SPENT TIME WITH SINCE THEY MOVED AWAY THE 1ST TIME)THEN OUR GRANDPA PASSED AWAY SO THEY HAD TO COME TO OKLAHOMA FOR THE FUNERAL AND HEATHER DECIDED THAT SHE WANTED TO STAY WITH MY SISTER LAURA IN TULSA FOR A FEW MONTHS SINCE IT WAS SUMMERTIME AND SHE COULD SEE ALL OF HER FRIENDS SO MY MOM LET HER EVEN THOUGH SHE DIDNT WANT TO...MY GRANDPA'S FUNERAL WAS ON MONDAY JUNE 26TH OF THIS YEAR AND THAT DAY MY MOM LEFT TO GO BACK TO KANSAS THEN AT 12:30AM ON SATURDAY THE 30TH THE POLICE KNOCK AT MY DOOR AND TELL ME THAT HEATHER HAD BEEN SHOT AND WAS IN CRITICAL CONDITION AND WAS RUSHED TO THE HOSPITAL, I CALLED EVERYONE AND MY MOM, SISTER ASHLEY AND BROTHER BRYAN RUSHED HERE FROM KANSAS!!!THE BLESSING THAT I THINK THAT GOD GAVE TO US SINCE HE KNEW THAT SHE WASNT GOING TO BE HERE MUCH LONGER WAS THAT EVERONE OF US GOT TO SPEND OUR OWN QUALITY TIME WITH HEATHER BEFORE SHE WAS TAKEN FROM US AND THAT IS SOMETHING THAT WE WILL HAVE TO CHERISH FOREVER!!!!(IT JUST TOOK A YEARS TIME SINCE WE HAVE SO MANY SIBLINGS!!!LOL!!!)
I believe we are on this earth a very short time and when we die we go to heaven.
I believe that god is a loving god and everything that happens in life is for a greater purpose. I can't imagine your pain and I know your son is in peaceful place now.
I believe everything you have said. A mothers bond to her child is beyond discription. It is totally probable that a higher power was a work during the last two weeks you and your son had together. For what ever reason you and your son were given two weeks together that will always be a teasure.
I believe your son has a very special mother.
These are all real things that happened which we did not project after the fact. I believe that she subconsciously knew that this was about to befall her. I'll believe that until they day I die and hopefully she'll be the first one there to greet me.
The weekend before Mike died, he wanted to see a friend of his who he hadn't seen in a while. We played Canasta all night. Before I went home that Sunday, he told me how much he loved me and how he always would. I told him I loved him as well & would love him forever.
He ended up living 4 more years....3 of which were happy, active, and wonderful years, in which he not only did things he always wanted to do, but he felt very inspired to tell people about his spiritual feelings,and he said many times, that he felt God had given him this extra time to do that very thing.
He spent his last month in the CTCA Hosp., in Phili, which is a 5 hour drive from where we live. There's much more to this story, but to make it brief, we got word that he had taken a turn for the worst, and was not expected to live through the night. We traveled those 5 hours to Phili, and reached his bedside at 10:20. He was NOT able to communicate, at all. However, we all told him we loved him, etc., and his wife told him that we were there now, so "he could go", and within seconds, he passed away. It was 10:45. I KNOW that he waited for us. I feel that it was God's gift to him. I KNOW that my son is with God....without ANY doubts. I asked my son to give me a sign, and he does. I won't go into what he does, but I KNOW that it's a sign from him. I have only told two people, because it sounds like I've gone off the deep end, but I KNOW what I KNOW. I feel very deeply that we'll be with all our loved ones, again. How could we stand it if we thought for one moment that this was not true?? I believe your son was given a chance that not everyone gets, and that is to be able to say goodbye, which he did. What a wonderful gift!!! God bless you.
SK77
I lost my Dad 18 months ago. I am a scientist and was an atheist, but we've had so many signs of an afterlife since his passing that I've turned into a deeply spiritual person.
Most notably, the day of his birthday, two baby doves appeared on my mother's back deck. They were so unafraid of us that we have a picture of me right beside them - I could reach out and touch them. They stayed there the ENTIRE day. We have never seen baby doves there before or since.
With this spiritual awakening I've also started to notice the coincidences that you talk about! They're so prevalent that I just can't ignore them.
If you haven't already, check out James Redfield's books: the Celestine Prophecy, and specifically the Secret of Shambala. It is all about these coincidences and society's awakening to understanding them. Finding that book felt like one of those strong coincidences to me!
I'm sure your son is somewhere doing something special for us, and that he will be waiting for you to join him!
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C
nonetheless, i got the book for him and he went into his bedroom. i was assuming he was reading it.
a couple days later he came out of his room holding a beautiful drawing he had made of Isabelle Allende! he used the picutre of her on the book jacket. a beautiful woman, a kind angelic face she had. well, i told joey i was amazed at what he had done. he had never drawn pictures before, especially ones this good.
i put the picture in a drawer, intendng to frame it.
3 weeks after joey let go of his body, i found the picture. i looked at it, and heard a voice inside of my head saying ;go to issabelle allendes website.
si i did. and there she was, more beautiful then the picture.
i wrote her an email, and i told her about the drawing did of her just before he lost his body.
i thought, well, thats done, and didnt expect any thing back,'
but, she did write back...she not only wrote back, she sent me a book called PAULA, the story of Issabelle Allende;s 32 yr old daughte who had lost her life and the while book was about healing thru grief and trauma.
there are no coincidences in the universe. i believe with all my heart that joey knew IN SPIRIT while he was in his body that this was histime to go from his body.
and he drew a picture before he crossed over to help me prepare.
i do believe we all know, everyone of us know when its our time, and i do blieve we chose that event before we were born into this existence.joey has shown me many more things, but i do know he isvery much alive