Hi all! I am new to this site although it is probably long overdue. As you can see from my profile, I lost my beloved father 5/05 from a sudden heart attack. I come from a VERY close family. My parents were very happily married for 37 yrs. I was 6 mo pregnant with my 2nd son when he passed. I was living in Fl at the time- they lived in PA. I was planning on coming for a visit 5/14/05 to celebrate his 63 birthday on 5/18, he passed away 5/10. I know I am nowhere near the stage I should be Re; his death. My mother (63) has just began dating a family friend in January. This man was married to one of her best friends, his wife passed away from Cancer @ 7 months ago. I am extremely against this relationship, and I have made this clear to both of them. He is not a very good person. When I was 18 he got drunk at my parents house and tried to make out with me. During the last year of his wife's life he had an affair and told the other woman that "It was OK b/c his wife was terminal" After my father's death but before his wife's - he would leave messages for my mother telling her how much he wanted to be with her- at the time she was digusted by him. I was hoping that she was trying to just get her feet wet in the dating world and would sooner or later branch out. That is not the case. Today she is going on vacation with him for a week. I am SO distraut, and devistated. My relationship with her is so damaged at this point that if it weren't for my children- I would remove her from my life. She keeps telling me- Everyone has baggage- to me it is not baggage it is about character. I feel so confused. His children (all adults) are ok with this- and I believe will be there this week. I can't stop crying and feel so hurt and angry. I just need some advice on how to cope. Sorry about the length and thanks for you opinions.
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