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Trying to understand..help her cope

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I don't know where to begin, but my concern is with my sister. Our mom passed in 2002 when she was just 16. It hit her the hardest. She went through a dark phase and then 3 years ago, she met her husband. She married him in July 2007. He just passed in Jan 2008 and she's only 21.

She seems to be doing well overall. The expected fits of depression, etc. She's seeing a counseler, knows very well about dealing with death.

I'm freaking out a little because of a situation that brewed this weekend. A friend of my husbands has been hanging out at our house during the weekends. Nice guy, going through a divorce so I guess he's dealing with sort of a loss too. I knew she was befriending him, but this weekend she told my husband she is attracted to this man. My husband also caught them cuddling. Our theory is she is just looking for comfort. I'm hoping that's all it is.

How soon is too soon after loosing your soul mate? I know it's for her to decide, but I am leary of her jumping into something so soon. I also have a fear that our family will be angry with us because it is our friend.
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When you lose 2 loved ones that close together it is just tragic. Councelling can help, but is really only a bandaid to cover the hurt. She needs to grieve in her own way. Maybe this man that she has met needs to be with someone who can relate to loss and your sister needs that too. If they do end up together and they are happpy well all the better. You are a fantastic support to your sister and that is what she needs the most right now. BIG HUGS
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I had a friend who married within a year of his wife dying. It ended badly,separating twice, and finally divorcing. Advise her not to jump in to anything.She really hasn't had time to really grieve
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Momma- I am worried about moving too fast. My dad and mom were married 28 years and he remarried within a year of her death. I cannot stand his wife, he knows it and is finally on the verge of divorce.

I am just concerned, I guess, about the same thing happening. I am there for her as much as possible. I'm her "call and b!@#" person lol. Many late nights. I think it makes it a little more difficult because this is a friend of my husbands.
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