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I lost my mom to breast cancer 10.5 years ago. I was 12 years old and it has affected me everyday of my life.
I just graduated from college in may and am finding that the transition is so hard. I haven't really connected the difficulty to the loss of my mom until recently. I don't feel sad all the time anymore- time really does help, but it takes a lot of time, talking, sharing and a great therapist to get through the grieving process- but life transitions are really hard for me.
I find myself turning to my boyfriend to solve/cure my feelings of sadness, loneliness and depression lately and am realizing that if I keep doing that I will be constantly disappointed. It is not his place and he couldn't possibly be capable of filling the void that I feel right now. No one can except for me. I know what I need to do but it is so hard to do it.
I recently went back to therapy which is really great. It feels good to share my anxieties and fears with someone objective. I want to participate more in support groups as well and surround myself by people who love and support me. I need to get out of my own head! It doesn't help that I don't have a job right now- but it is also so hard to commit to one right now.
I need to take care of me and nurture myself the way a mother nurtures a child. I think we all need that and when it has been taken from us, it is so hard to cope. We can never have the real mother-daughter nurturing relationship and support back, but we need to reach out to people and seek other forms of nurture. And we need to be nurturing with ourselves. That is very hard for me, but my friend suggested it lately....
That's all for now. I'd love to hear what other people do to cope when they are facing new chapters in their lives, or obstacles, or just any kind of change.
I just graduated from college in may and am finding that the transition is so hard. I haven't really connected the difficulty to the loss of my mom until recently. I don't feel sad all the time anymore- time really does help, but it takes a lot of time, talking, sharing and a great therapist to get through the grieving process- but life transitions are really hard for me.
I find myself turning to my boyfriend to solve/cure my feelings of sadness, loneliness and depression lately and am realizing that if I keep doing that I will be constantly disappointed. It is not his place and he couldn't possibly be capable of filling the void that I feel right now. No one can except for me. I know what I need to do but it is so hard to do it.
I recently went back to therapy which is really great. It feels good to share my anxieties and fears with someone objective. I want to participate more in support groups as well and surround myself by people who love and support me. I need to get out of my own head! It doesn't help that I don't have a job right now- but it is also so hard to commit to one right now.
I need to take care of me and nurture myself the way a mother nurtures a child. I think we all need that and when it has been taken from us, it is so hard to cope. We can never have the real mother-daughter nurturing relationship and support back, but we need to reach out to people and seek other forms of nurture. And we need to be nurturing with ourselves. That is very hard for me, but my friend suggested it lately....
That's all for now. I'd love to hear what other people do to cope when they are facing new chapters in their lives, or obstacles, or just any kind of change.
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You lost your mother when you were so young. I think your friend is so very right. Nurture yourself the best you can and give yourself permission to miss your mother and the mothering she would have given you. It's only natural for you to want and need that. I miss my dad more than I can say (he's been gone 14 years) and now I've lost my 28 year old son too. Some days I can barely put one foot in front of the other, but I won't allow anyone to tell me how I "should" deal with my loss. I'm going to do what I feel I need to do to survive. You need to do the same. Peace to you!
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I can't even imagine the grief you must be dealing with right now. It is inspiring to hear that you are taking control of yourself, your loss, and your life. What do you do to survive? To put one foot in front of the other? What works for you? I wish you peace and the ability to take steps to healing every day.
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Hi!! I just want to say that I am sorry for your loss.I can see alot of myself when reaing your post.I lost my father 12 years ago,we were so close and I was only 14 at the time.I also have been deeply changed and affected by it.I too ran for a long long time and just recently allowed myself to greive.I have lost many other family members and close friends along the way and I can say one thing for sure it is the hardest thing I have had to experience.I csn completely understand you turning to your bf to fill the void.I did the same thing and still do sometimes.It never works the way we wish it would.I am glad you realize that!!It took me a long long time and alot of tears and disappointments to figure it out..I think you are doing the right thing by getting therapy and surrounding yourself with friends who give you quality advice.I also found that I get releif thru painting and photography.Those are just mine but perhaps if you find something you are passionate about or gives you a release,you can really pour out alot of your feelings.I found that it helps me get by day to day! I hope this helps.
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Hi There .my mom also died of the same thing and I have always believed as a Christian that I will not get it. I am now 55 and never have . She was 46. I believe she is in heaven and that gives me peace. I have cried the necessary tears also as you must grieve emotionally. Hope this helped Love Judy Horne
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