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Starting to remember some good times and it hurts

deleted_user
deleted_user
I have so much pain and hurt of what his drinking did to our family but just recently I am also starting to have some good memories of things we did together or as a family. I am hurting so much and not sure how to deal with this.

I also want to thank those of you who have given me so much support since I joined this group I hope in time I will be able to return that support. You wil never know how grateful I am for my cyber friends here, you make a difference.
hugs melx
ginnycat
ginnycat
It's hard to deal with it. Pray and pray hard. The Lord WIll unburden your heart. He has with my alcoholic husband. You are on the right track, remembering the good times, even though they also are painful. Keep strong as you can. And keep reaching out to people that know how you feel and can help you along the way.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry for your loss . I am glad that yor able to remmber some good times Pain hurt and grief take time allow your self that have a good weekend ((((huggs)))))kathyjo
eileenR
eileenR
Learning to deal with this grief. IS so hard. I am sorry for your loss. As you start to see those good memories let them bring you comfort in the pain. I too love my ds friends. Take care yourself. For oneday you will be able to reach out. Until then here is a hug.
deleted_user
deleted_user
YES - hang onto the good memories. You had alot of time together. I divorced with 3 kids because of my husband's drinking... he still is 10 years later after the divorce. We lost a son together and he still can't get it together for his sons still left. I hate him for that. Truly feel that if he died we would all be better off. It is hard... always has been but alcoholics are SELFISH people. We lost our marriage to it... our kid ultimately to it... so good memories?????? HE killed those.
Hang in there but I truly think you should just move on. There are men than won't put you through all of that hell.
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