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Sick of It Yet?

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I don\'t know about you folks, but I\'m sick of it. I am to the point where I am tired of sympathy cards. I am tired of people looking at me with that pathetic look, touching me on the arm and saying \"How are you doing?\" when what I want to say is \"I\'m doing really lousy\" but instead I say \"I\'m fine\" because all I want to do is NOT think about how I feel. I\'m sick of people going to great lengths to avoid talking about Madison and looking uncomfortable when her name is mentioned. Like she was a figment of my imagination and she never existed. I\'m sick of people looking at me with such pity and seeming uncomfortable when they see me - like their afraid of saying the wrong thing to me or something. And then I feel guilty for feeling sick of it all, knowing that people only mean well and want to be supportive, and I\'m probably just grumpy. Does anyone else ever feel this way?
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heck yes! Its only been 16 days and Im paranoid about leaving the house because I cannot bear the uncomfortableness people will show when I run into them..its a small town..
I hate explaining to people that it takes YEARS ..and NO ONE comes over or calls ..except for one person, god bless her, and one of my sons friends..I will NEVER let my son be forgotten, and if people get uncomfortable with me when I bring him up, they will no longer be in my life, they arent worth knowing. My son lived for 23 years and he contributed beauty and poetry and art to the world and did more in 23 yrs then some people do living 80 yrs..
I know how you feel..I thought about going to the store today and I just didnt..couldnt face peoples looks on their faces..
if I have to go to the store Ill do it in another town...by the way ((((hugs)))))
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and another thing..GOD I wish people would stop saying HOW R U?? for gods sake my son just died 16 days ago how the heck do they think I am?? maybe HOW BAD R U TODAY would be better...
This country needs a major conciousness raising session when it comes to GRIEF.
(((hugs again)))
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I understand yes. And this one gets me too, \"have a great day\". I hear that all day long. Or \"Have a great weekend\". Are they so stupid? Do they realize what they just said? Cant they think before they talk? Why not just say \"take care yourself\" or something else besides \"have a good day\". I work on the phones at my job and so every call is \"How are you\". That is a joke, how the hell do you think I am? My gosh, like the woman who responded to you said \" this country needs a course on grieving\". They could stand to learn a lot and try to help others cope. I wish people would say our loved ones name. He isnt mentioned ever. If all they said was \" I thought of him/her today. I imagined his/her smiling face today. I remembered how he would have acted if he heard or saw that\". Just say something. I went the whole Thanksgiving weekend without hearing his name. How do you think I feel about that? I dont want to face Christmas for that very reason. They wont mention him again. Dont they understand that is all I am going to be thinking of and you too. Why, why, why must they hurt us more when we are already at our worse? I am so sorry for your loss. I do feel your pain every day, every minute, every hour. God bless.
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But once it stops........it stops. Very few people in my life can understand that I will be grieving for Josh for the rest of my life. And the ones that do understand, they love Josh just as much as I do.
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I agree. I lost my brother on the 25th of November and I have found that the people who truly loved Andrew, know how I am hurting and want to celebrate him and talk about him.
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Yes, and thank heaven for those people. My mother talks openly about Maddie and wants some pictures of her, as does the rest of my family. I have a big family so that helps. That\'s why DS is so great. We can all come here, know we all aren\'t having a good day, we aren\'t fine, and we want to talk about our loved ones we\'ve lost without feeling like it makes everyone uncomfortable. I\'m glad you\'re all here!
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