My ex-husband has turned my daughter against me. I lost my 18 year old son five days before Christmas 2006. It's her birthday next week and I so want to reach out to her, I know she's hurting terribly. But I've done this numerous times and she is always able to treat me cruelly and inflict an ungodly amount of pain on me, hence the reason I've had no contact with her. Just some background, when Matthew was killed she was kind enough to call me and let me know of the tragedy and what hospital my younger son was taken too. She came to the hospital and we hugged and of course blamed herself, I told her it wasn't her fault, I hurt so much for her. My ex could not ever deal with details, so she acted in his stead, walking all over me during the arrangements but allowing me to pay the bill. Now the money doesn't matter to me, but she literally had the audacity to tell me Matthews friends didn't even know he had a mother, which is completely false. But she did treat me as though I wasn't his mother during the whole services thing. I then had a mass on his birthday, which afterwards she proceeded to yell and cuss at my mother about her regretting choosing me over her. My mother was the only one supporting me (at least family wise, well plus my rock) I walked up to her and told her to get out of my mothers face, and she proceeded to turn her wrath on me, choking me, cussing yelling, the breaking point for me was when she said I wasn't entitled to grieve for my son, I smacked her, open handed, right across the face, and she whaled on me with her fists. My mother and friend had to literally pull her off of me. She split my lip open. She has no one, anyone that tells her or suggests to her that she needs her mother and grandmother, she cuts out of her life. She hasn't spoken to my mom since, I know it's hurting my mom to have lost Matthew and now Nicole but I don't know what to do about it. I continue to want to reach out but she's too capable of wounding me. I plan to just send a card with my love and maybe a small gift certificate. Though she will no doubt spit upon it. Any advice?
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