My Mom died Jul 3 2006. She was 87. Dec 11 2005 she suffered a stroke at home while I was helping her to the bathroom. The stroke prevented her from talking and swallowing and her brain function was not mormal. She could recognize me(Thank God)but she did not understand what I was saying to her. I was her primary caregiver the last 5 years of her life and the most painful part of all this was the fact she could not talk and laugh with me. I would visit her in the nursing home I had to put her in since I could not take care of her. She got very sick 5 days before she died and the day before she died I visited her and kissed her on the forehead and knew right then and there I knew she was either going to die or my sisters and I would ask the doctor to pull her feeding tube. I saw my Dad suffer 2 strokes while he was in the hospital before he died in 1982. To be the only one in the family to see both parents suffer strokes was just too much for me. I have found comfort in the same church my Mom went to. The holidays were okay but I know I will face a very hard time when Mother's Day is here and on Jul 3. I would like to talk to others who went thru the same thing as I did and how you dealt with the pain. Thank You.
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