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This is my first Xmas without my Dad. I would love to know if anyone has recommendations on how to deal with our losses during the holidays. Does anyone plan to put out any kind of special memorial in their home? Or have a small ceremony? My mother seems determined to boycott Xmas. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Second, if there you have children in the house, decisions are made for you. They may not understand, so you have to keep up regular traditions for them.
Third, aside from the above, my Mom used to say you don't send cards (or "celebrate") the first Christmas. Keep in mind what Christmas is, that the Birth of Christ is what we celebrate. So, what you might eliminate, if you choose, are the excess trimmings - however you determine.
I love Christmas, and it will be difficult not to decorate the house inside and out. My Mom would want me to do whatever made me happy. Having her here (or knowing she's safely at peace) is what would make me happy.
So, aside from putting up the Nativity, I won't be following the usual holiday traditions - just like today's Thanksgiving had no turkey, trimmings & leftovers. Will I do something special? No, just cry and miss her and pray for her and wonder what will happen with the rest of my life.
No suggestions for you, but I sure know how you fell.
love,
donna
neither I or my mum sent out any christmas cards, we kept it a very quiet christmas.
AS much as it hurt to be without him, we tried our hardest to remember the good times with him...there were so many.
I wish you much strength over the holidays
On Thanksgiving, my mom went to my dad's gravesite. That is so hard for me. But I will support her anyway I can.
When I heard my granfather passed away, I went to KFC and had lunch by myself in his memory (he worked for them many years as a maintenace man) there are just so many things. Take care and follow your heart.