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I wanted to share part of this poem. Many of us feel this way.
You Can't Win With Me by Jane Warland
If you say to me, "How are you doing?,"
Even with sympathy and meaning in your voice,
I might reply, "I'm fine," and brush you off...
Because to talk about my loss with you is just too painful...Don't be sad.
You can't win with me.
If you see me and don't mention the loss that is consuming my thoughts,
I think you don't care enough,
Or are too scared to mention it
For fear that you might upset me...
You know sometimes you can't win with me.
If you say, "I'm sorry your baby died,"
It is hard for me to reply to that.
What do you expect me to say:
I want to say, "I'm sorry too!" or "It's awful!"
I want to scream, "It's not fair!!"
But I won't because I don't want to fall apart today, not in front of you.
So I reply, "Thank you."
That thanks means so much more than that.
It means thanks for caring,
Thanks for realizing that I'm still in pain.
If you don't know what to say to me, that's ok.
Because I don't know what to say to you either.
You Can't Win With Me by Jane Warland
If you say to me, "How are you doing?,"
Even with sympathy and meaning in your voice,
I might reply, "I'm fine," and brush you off...
Because to talk about my loss with you is just too painful...Don't be sad.
You can't win with me.
If you see me and don't mention the loss that is consuming my thoughts,
I think you don't care enough,
Or are too scared to mention it
For fear that you might upset me...
You know sometimes you can't win with me.
If you say, "I'm sorry your baby died,"
It is hard for me to reply to that.
What do you expect me to say:
I want to say, "I'm sorry too!" or "It's awful!"
I want to scream, "It's not fair!!"
But I won't because I don't want to fall apart today, not in front of you.
So I reply, "Thank you."
That thanks means so much more than that.
It means thanks for caring,
Thanks for realizing that I'm still in pain.
If you don't know what to say to me, that's ok.
Because I don't know what to say to you either.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Because I don't know what to say to you either.
So true!
Thanks for posting this! Huggs, Rainbow