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I feel like I have told this story a thousand times over today.
I moved here from Southern California in 1995 to be closer to my mom. Since moving here, for various reasons, I have had very little social life.
My mom had a heart attack in 2004 and had her first cardiac surgery not long after.
Last year, she had a Total Knee Replacement, that went fine, but as is often the case-- when you fix one thing, you realize how much something else hurts. Such was the case with my mom and her hip.
After struggling for months with chronic, barely managable pain, mom decided to have a hip surgery.
She was 75-years-old.
In the tests leading up to her hip surgery, they discovered she had aortic stenosis, and another blockage and told her they could not, would not, perform hip surgery with her heart the way it was.
They told her that she could opt to have another heart surgery. That without one, she might live five years, but that she could never have the hip surgery.
The plan became to get through the heart surgery and then schedule the hip surgery for early next year.
I am devestated. Totally. Lost.
The surgery was Tuesday. She never quite recovered normally, but after a CT scan, they assured me that she had not had a stroke.
They said her heart was strong.
Yesterday, when I saw her, I was able to talk with her, and I told her that I loved her, and she told me that she loved me.
I thought she was getting better
This morning when I got to SICU to see her, she had arrested, and they were trying to resuscitate her.
My mom, Patrica, my very best friend, died today, November 11, 2007.
I am alone. I shared a duplex with her, and lived upstairs from her, and now she is gone.
My brother is in Florida, one sister is in Texas, and my other sister who is local, is going through her own issues (she had decided to go out of town, so was not here today when any of this happened).
And honestly, my siblings were never there for my mom when she was alive, so I expect nothing from them now that she is gone.
I know that my mom would not want me to crumble, and I'm trying but I feel horrible.
Can anyone recommend any bereavement groups in the Twin Cities area?
Does this get any easier?
I moved here from Southern California in 1995 to be closer to my mom. Since moving here, for various reasons, I have had very little social life.
My mom had a heart attack in 2004 and had her first cardiac surgery not long after.
Last year, she had a Total Knee Replacement, that went fine, but as is often the case-- when you fix one thing, you realize how much something else hurts. Such was the case with my mom and her hip.
After struggling for months with chronic, barely managable pain, mom decided to have a hip surgery.
She was 75-years-old.
In the tests leading up to her hip surgery, they discovered she had aortic stenosis, and another blockage and told her they could not, would not, perform hip surgery with her heart the way it was.
They told her that she could opt to have another heart surgery. That without one, she might live five years, but that she could never have the hip surgery.
The plan became to get through the heart surgery and then schedule the hip surgery for early next year.
I am devestated. Totally. Lost.
The surgery was Tuesday. She never quite recovered normally, but after a CT scan, they assured me that she had not had a stroke.
They said her heart was strong.
Yesterday, when I saw her, I was able to talk with her, and I told her that I loved her, and she told me that she loved me.
I thought she was getting better
This morning when I got to SICU to see her, she had arrested, and they were trying to resuscitate her.
My mom, Patrica, my very best friend, died today, November 11, 2007.
I am alone. I shared a duplex with her, and lived upstairs from her, and now she is gone.
My brother is in Florida, one sister is in Texas, and my other sister who is local, is going through her own issues (she had decided to go out of town, so was not here today when any of this happened).
And honestly, my siblings were never there for my mom when she was alive, so I expect nothing from them now that she is gone.
I know that my mom would not want me to crumble, and I'm trying but I feel horrible.
Can anyone recommend any bereavement groups in the Twin Cities area?
Does this get any easier?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I miss you mommy.
I would recommend talking to your general practicioner or someone in the hospital. They would be your best resources to find a therapist or group who can assist you.
You are in my thoughts & prayers.