
Bereavement Support Group
Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

deleted_user
My husband recently passed away, and besides being my everything, he was my sole source of transportation, since I don't drive. I'm taking driving lessons. They said they would just teach me the basic maneuvers so I could get my license in 3 lessons. I planned to just do easy driving on quiet streets once I got my license, just to get basics like groceries and medical care, and build up experience later. I expected to need more than 3 lessons since I'm grieving, and I understand it's hard to focus when you're grieving. I figured I'd double it and expect to get 6.
I have an excellent instructor, and he's had experiences similar to mine with his family being insensitive when he lost his spouse, so I figure it was meant to be. But I've taken 9 lessons, and he figures I'll need at least 3 or 4 more, and he feels even that may not be enough.
I keep talking about these problems I'm having with my family regarding their insensitivity to the my loss while I'm trying to learn to drive. I keep trying not to talk about it while driving because I need to concentrate, then he asks questions, which is very nice, and since I need to talk about it, my answers are always so long but I think it may be slowing me down and causing me not to learn as fast. I was always a good student. It's not me. But I do have to concentrate if I'm trying to learn a new skill.
It's getting too expensive, and I need my license before the cold weather hits (very soon). I'm feeling so frustrated, and I heard people shouldn't try to take on any big challenges for at least a year after losing a spouse, so I'm guessing this is normal, right? I just wondered what other people think regarding this situation or have experienced, or what input or suggestions you might have, if any (other than quit talking so much lol).
I have an excellent instructor, and he's had experiences similar to mine with his family being insensitive when he lost his spouse, so I figure it was meant to be. But I've taken 9 lessons, and he figures I'll need at least 3 or 4 more, and he feels even that may not be enough.
I keep talking about these problems I'm having with my family regarding their insensitivity to the my loss while I'm trying to learn to drive. I keep trying not to talk about it while driving because I need to concentrate, then he asks questions, which is very nice, and since I need to talk about it, my answers are always so long but I think it may be slowing me down and causing me not to learn as fast. I was always a good student. It's not me. But I do have to concentrate if I'm trying to learn a new skill.
It's getting too expensive, and I need my license before the cold weather hits (very soon). I'm feeling so frustrated, and I heard people shouldn't try to take on any big challenges for at least a year after losing a spouse, so I'm guessing this is normal, right? I just wondered what other people think regarding this situation or have experienced, or what input or suggestions you might have, if any (other than quit talking so much lol).
Posts You May Be Interested In
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You need full concentration when learning to drive - no matter the circumstances. But in your case, it sounds as though you've set a personal goal / time limit and not achieving it will only make you more nervous behind the wheel. The only thing your instructor should talk about while you're driving - is any constructive help about the task at hand.
Get that license and drive safely !
Wishing you well.