It has been 1 1/2 years since my son's murder and I am nowhere near normal or whole or back on track or whatever you want to call it, but I have learned alot in this time and this is my best piece of advice to all of you grieving. Forget one day at a time, if you are 12 stepping, good keep on, but when it comes to grieving, you can't do one day at a time. You have to do one minute at a time. That is all you can handle in the beginning. If all you expect of yourself at the moment is to get through this one minute, you could do it right? We can handle that? It is what I did. It has been 1 1/2 years with no resolution on my son's murder and I am not even at one day at a time yet. And some days I have to go back to one minute. So cut yourself some slack, give yourself a break and grieve. Cry, yell, throw something, see a counselor, but please stop expecting yourself to heal right away, to feel better right away. I don't yet. TAKE IT ONE MINUTE AT A TIME. SEE IF IT HELPS.
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