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My partners mam died 3wks ago.She was the heart of the family my partner still lives at home because he wanted to look after his mam and dad.They were extremely close she was his best friend..his only confidante..now he's heart broken and i just dont know what to do? His dad is not doing so good, they were together for 47 year and were still very much in love with each other.The way she died was just awful and no-one could do anything to help..she died of cancer very slow and very painful all her dignity was lost and it's just so hard to believe she's gone.I dont say to them that it will get better - time will heal - all the usual stuff people say cause to them it will never get easier they will never get 'over'it..she was their life force..can anyone tell me what i should be saying or doing that will try and help them? it's cutting me up watching them suffer like this.I want to just wrap my arms around them and hold them so close and tight and take their sadness away.What should i be doing?
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You can only be there for them, and encourage them to remember her as full of life as she was before the Cancer, not how she was at the end. Try to encourage them to celebrate her life. It will take time. But all you can do is be there.
dilli
dilli
My Dad died of cancer in May 2007,
there isn't a lot you can do......hold them close, let them know your there, make sure they eat when they should, offer to do shopping, cooking, cleaning,
just be there,
My Dad was the life force of my family, and I'm not sure we will ever really recover from his death, I know my Mum will die of a broken heart, ( they were married 55 years)....don't expect too much from them, just give them time
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