I would say take your time and go through your grief process. It's important to do things at your own pace.

take your time.. unless you really need the rental income. you are not ready to go through all of your dads stuff. espically in a week. its to soon and to much for you emotionally. and i would rent it, because someday you might want the house for yourself. this way you have time to make decisions, when yoy can think a little bit clearer. and you will have no regrets, take care,carol

You need to follow your heart. It will help you deal with the inevitable grief. The economy will not change by the time you have been able to go through all of your memories with your dad. Do what your heart tells you to do.

My husband and I have gone through this discussion regarding personal items. I know its not the same as with the whole house but I did talk to my therapist about this and she said that this is someones whole life and a life full of memories. You should not go through it and just toss it aside. Take your time as each room is going to be full of memories for you and you need to take the time to absorb them and to experience the grief. Grieving process is different for each of us and I do not think it would be fair to say that in a month you should have all the house sorted and done with. See what I am getting at? The amount of time varies as much as we as people do.

When I talked to my husband about this he understood and has been really good about things. We have both lost loved ones but when I lost my sister a couple of years ago, it was the most difficult for me. So, I would suggest you take all the time you want and need to search your memories in your Dad's house.

I am very sorry for your loss. And I feel your question was very appropriate for this forum.

Take your time. Unless you are in need of the rental income and are 100% sure it will rent out immediately, what is the rush?

You need to clean house -- both emotionally and literally. Don't rush into this. Maybe 3 to 6 months from now... perhaps more. These things take time.

My condolences of your loss. Hugs.

Please do it at your own pace. It is a very personal and draining at times. If you need the money, pack everything up and store it for when you are ready.

Also make sure you are ready to see another family in the house - the home that was your parents. I didn't see that one coming.

Take your time. I went through some of my mothers things this past weekend. I'm doing it a little at a time. Though she lived with me. I can't keep everything forever, but I can't and don't want to go through and get rid of things all at once. A little at a time. If you don't need it for rental income. take your time and you'll know when the time is right.
Barb

I agree with everyone else so let me repeat. Don't do anything before you are absolutely sure and that could take a while. If you need the income, you have done without it this long, do what you've been doing. There are some days that will be harder than ever and the house will comfort you some days and tear your heart on others. It's all part of grief, so don't rush or you'll have more to deal with if your sorry. Tell your husband you need to wait or you may resent him in the future for pressuring you.. Sharon

I'm in a similar situation. I lost my Mom last summer and have not yet sorted through everything. My realtor (friend of a friend) was pushing me to get it on the market, but I'm taking my time. Sorting through everything will likely bring back all sorts of memories, that should be cherished and not rushed through. Unless you have some financial issues pressing you, I would take my time. Its part of the healing process if you ask me. God bless.

This is a tough thing to do. We had 5 of us kids to go thru my Moms stuff. she had already done alot of it about 2 yrs ago....downsized. Even with all 5 of us, each of us broke down during the removing all her stuff from her place. She died Thanksgiving Day.

My point...you are just one.....this will be harder for you. I say......wait,,,,do alittle at a time or it will be VERY Hard on you emotionally.

Hubby should understand that time to heal is necessary and time for acceptance of the loss of your loved one. Would he want you to get rid of everything, move within a week if it was him whom had died? Of course not. Some guys are a little obtuse when it comes to emotions unless you put into words they understand. Feelings and talking no their best areas. LOL!

Hope this helped some.
Love Rhea

Save special things for you that help good memories in your heart.

I'm sorry for your loss. When my mom passed away, I spent a lot of time sitting in her house surrounded by her things and that provided me such comfort. Even now, after four months, I still want her home to be the same as it was while she was there.

It's very hard for me to go through her things at ones, I want to do it slowly, spend more time, but that's impossible. I didn't inherit the house, so I have to take what's important to me from her home and I don't want to lose some of her personal things. I'm trying to delay that as long as possible. Changing that place and moving her things away from there make me feel like a big part of my life is disappearing.

So, I would definitely say, don't let anyone rush you, give yourself enough time. There are so many memories there. Hugs. Lara

You have received some wonderful advice and I hope your husband will be understanding as you break it down a little for him. Not being critical but I think its just a guy thing to just move on and then they do not have to deal with the emotional aspect much.

But, for you, you need all the time you want. And the most difficult part of dealing with my folks that passed was getting rid of their stuff. I felt so like I was violating them in some way. Does that sound crazy?

Well, you take care and talk to us about what you are going through anytime you need to. We are here for each other:)

I have read that one shoulden't make any major decisions in the first year of bereavement. That being said, I was forced to move and did and still do temp work within the first year. It's a hard call, we don't have our normal decision making cpabilities for a long time. I would take some time..........it won't hurt anyone to wait. Love and pryaers to you, Nancy

Realistically, you wouldn't be able to rent the house out for some time anyway. Peak rental season is not the middle of winter, and there are probably things that will need to be done on the house before it can be rented. I would guess you're at least 3-6 months from doing that. If your husband is anxious about it, ask him to begin researching what will be required to become a 'landlord' - for example, are you going to need a lawyer to draw up rental agreements or a lease? What kind of insurance will you need? Are there any local laws you have to be aware of? Are you in a 'rent control' area? Assure him that someday you will be ready for that, but not yet, and that you want 6 months (or whatever) to do what you feel necessary to grieve, go through their things, make changes, etc., and that you need his support and help in this. My experience is that most men just want to know what to do, how they can help, and when to reasonably expect something to happen. Be honest and straightforward with your husband. Hugs....

Set a time frame that you think will allow you to go through what you want. You can always take his belongings to your own home and rummage through them at leisure.