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Don't want to upset anybody, but this is a part of the process for me...and I need opinions. My dad passed last week, I'm the only heir, he left a house, now it's mine. What to do with it?
My husband thinks we should rent it out, and I agree, the housing market is very bad, then sell later when the market improves. But I want to go through everything, touch everything, spend lots of time. He wants to whip it out in a week.
Am I wrong to want to spend some time, or should I let the economy guide me? What would you do?
My husband thinks we should rent it out, and I agree, the housing market is very bad, then sell later when the market improves. But I want to go through everything, touch everything, spend lots of time. He wants to whip it out in a week.
Am I wrong to want to spend some time, or should I let the economy guide me? What would you do?
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When I talked to my husband about this he understood and has been really good about things. We have both lost loved ones but when I lost my sister a couple of years ago, it was the most difficult for me. So, I would suggest you take all the time you want and need to search your memories in your Dad's house.
I am very sorry for your loss. And I feel your question was very appropriate for this forum.
You need to clean house -- both emotionally and literally. Don't rush into this. Maybe 3 to 6 months from now... perhaps more. These things take time.
My condolences of your loss. Hugs.
Also make sure you are ready to see another family in the house - the home that was your parents. I didn't see that one coming.
Barb
My point...you are just one.....this will be harder for you. I say......wait,,,,do alittle at a time or it will be VERY Hard on you emotionally.
Hubby should understand that time to heal is necessary and time for acceptance of the loss of your loved one. Would he want you to get rid of everything, move within a week if it was him whom had died? Of course not. Some guys are a little obtuse when it comes to emotions unless you put into words they understand. Feelings and talking no their best areas. LOL!
Hope this helped some.
Love Rhea
Save special things for you that help good memories in your heart.
It's very hard for me to go through her things at ones, I want to do it slowly, spend more time, but that's impossible. I didn't inherit the house, so I have to take what's important to me from her home and I don't want to lose some of her personal things. I'm trying to delay that as long as possible. Changing that place and moving her things away from there make me feel like a big part of my life is disappearing.
So, I would definitely say, don't let anyone rush you, give yourself enough time. There are so many memories there. Hugs. Lara
But, for you, you need all the time you want. And the most difficult part of dealing with my folks that passed was getting rid of their stuff. I felt so like I was violating them in some way. Does that sound crazy?
Well, you take care and talk to us about what you are going through anytime you need to. We are here for each other:)