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While I am celebrating christmas and have decorated the house, (my mom would have been very upset if I did not)I have decided not to celebrate New Years Eve this year. Most likely I will go to bed at 10:00pm and simply wake up to a new year.
My brother seems to think this is just a way of me avoiding change and not accepting the new year. He wonders if this is healthy for me or not. I kind of understand where he is coming from however at this point I simply do not think I will have the strength.
As a family we used to sit around the TV count down the new year, celebrate with a glass of Champange and have breakfast (yes breakfast at midnight :-) ).. I just do not want to do this, this year and really don\'t want the calls from family wishing me a happy new year etc. etc.
Can I get some feed back on this please...
My brother seems to think this is just a way of me avoiding change and not accepting the new year. He wonders if this is healthy for me or not. I kind of understand where he is coming from however at this point I simply do not think I will have the strength.
As a family we used to sit around the TV count down the new year, celebrate with a glass of Champange and have breakfast (yes breakfast at midnight :-) ).. I just do not want to do this, this year and really don\'t want the calls from family wishing me a happy new year etc. etc.
Can I get some feed back on this please...
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I wish you Peace
Karen
I totally undertand where you are coming from. Our grief is still so new and the thought of the \"New Year\" and all it symbolizes with new beginnings and such terrifies me. I feel as if I\'m being pushed through a threshold of moving on that I\'m not ready for. Although 2006 hosts the most devastating experience of my life, I\'m comfortable here. I have memories of my husband here. Living in a new year and being reminded that there will be no moments together in 2007 sadddens me to no end. As for your brother, I get that too. We have learned that not one person goes through this grief journey the same and my family is also not on the same page with me when the holidays are concerned. But you and I both know that we have to do what is right for us. If sleeping through the celebration makes you more comfortable with it then it is healthy!!
I could not put my finger on why I felt the way I did about New Years Eve. But once I read your post it all made sense.
\"Our grief is still so new and the thought of the \"New Year\" and all it symbolizes with new beginnings and such terrifies me. I feel as if I\'m being pushed through a threshold of moving on that I\'m not ready for. Although 2006 hosts the most devastating experience of my life, I\'m comfortable here.\"
You are so on the mark.
Thank You
John