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Hi,
I am not new to DS but I am new to this community. About 6 weeks ago my life changed forever. My dear friend, who I had lived with her entire pregnancy went into labor. She was a single mom, the dad was just a jerk and not around. Well there were three of us living together and we watched her through out the whole pregnancy. I have a very flexible job so I was able to go to a lot of doctor's apointments with her and be there for her in a way noone else was. I could not have been more excited if it was my biological sister. My friend is 2 years younger and really like a little sister to me. I would talk to her baby, his name was Jude and he would kick for me every time. He never did it for anyone else, and so we bonded a lot.
Well she went into labor when I was visiting my sister at college 5 hours away so I drove home late at night, so excited and rushed straight to the mid wife's office where she was having him at. She had him about 2 hours after I got there. Anyway to make a long story short that was at 10:30 and by 4 am he had passed away. I had gone home to get a little sleep and was only asleep 2 hours when I got the call and rushed back to the hospital to be with my friend. Before I got there I got a call he had passed. I was devestated in a way I never have been in my life. She has 2 sisters but I am closer to her than they are and so at his funeral she had me share. I was touched, and devastated.
Well the day after he passed I got the call my grandpa wasn't going to make it through the week. Sure enough 6 days later my grandpa passed away.I was a wreck, and went out drinking for days on end to deal with it. Now I am trying to get sober, nad deal with feeling really depressed about everything. Financially things are a wreck, I am flunking out of school cause I have no motivation to do anything. I can't hardly get up in the morning. I have not had a truly good day since that night. I have had moments of goodness but it never lasts long.
I don't know how to deal with this, I have never lost anyone close to me let alone 2 in one week! I see little baby boys and I want to cry, I can't go into Baby Gap anymore. I don't know if I ever will again. I don't know how to handle the feelings but I feel like since he wasn't mine I should be able to just get over it. I see a counselor but we have been focusing on my drinking problems right now. anything anyone has I would like to hear it.
I am not new to DS but I am new to this community. About 6 weeks ago my life changed forever. My dear friend, who I had lived with her entire pregnancy went into labor. She was a single mom, the dad was just a jerk and not around. Well there were three of us living together and we watched her through out the whole pregnancy. I have a very flexible job so I was able to go to a lot of doctor's apointments with her and be there for her in a way noone else was. I could not have been more excited if it was my biological sister. My friend is 2 years younger and really like a little sister to me. I would talk to her baby, his name was Jude and he would kick for me every time. He never did it for anyone else, and so we bonded a lot.
Well she went into labor when I was visiting my sister at college 5 hours away so I drove home late at night, so excited and rushed straight to the mid wife's office where she was having him at. She had him about 2 hours after I got there. Anyway to make a long story short that was at 10:30 and by 4 am he had passed away. I had gone home to get a little sleep and was only asleep 2 hours when I got the call and rushed back to the hospital to be with my friend. Before I got there I got a call he had passed. I was devestated in a way I never have been in my life. She has 2 sisters but I am closer to her than they are and so at his funeral she had me share. I was touched, and devastated.
Well the day after he passed I got the call my grandpa wasn't going to make it through the week. Sure enough 6 days later my grandpa passed away.I was a wreck, and went out drinking for days on end to deal with it. Now I am trying to get sober, nad deal with feeling really depressed about everything. Financially things are a wreck, I am flunking out of school cause I have no motivation to do anything. I can't hardly get up in the morning. I have not had a truly good day since that night. I have had moments of goodness but it never lasts long.
I don't know how to deal with this, I have never lost anyone close to me let alone 2 in one week! I see little baby boys and I want to cry, I can't go into Baby Gap anymore. I don't know if I ever will again. I don't know how to handle the feelings but I feel like since he wasn't mine I should be able to just get over it. I see a counselor but we have been focusing on my drinking problems right now. anything anyone has I would like to hear it.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Don't be hard on yourself for how you're feeling, don't tell yourself you should feel differently, just feel what you're feeling.
You're going through a lot, just one foot in front of the other.
I love you sweety.