I am so sorry, I am so sorry. I don't have to know you at all to feel that way. This hits us all differently, you're probably numb right now. It's okay to be numb, then be emotional, and numb again. Nobody told me how I would feel, because our losses are so vastly different except for one thing, and that goes without saying. You're in my heart tonight, Mary.

The first period of grief, includes shock and numbness. It can last for up to 4 months in most cases. It is our brains way to protect us from the terrible pain, while we adjust to the reality of it all.

I am so sorry for your loss. You are just beginning the hourney. We'll try to help you along the way. Huggs, Rainbow

I agree with what the others have said. You are still in shock. Unfortunately it won't last and you will begin to feel the pain more than you ever thought possible. We are all here to help you along this painful path.

Today was the funeral. It was hard. Again, I don't get why I can't cry. I love your responses, and the fact that all of you say the same thing about being numb or in shock. I have a feeling this is going to hit me like a Mach truck.

you are probably still in trauma and shock. please know many of us here understand. we really do. its okay, i didnt cry at first either. there is a group of us called ForMomsOnly on here and there are many of us who have had our adult children cross over. please know we are here for you. love, marianne, joeys mom.

Your body has put up a coping mechanism right now. It has been 4 months since my husband died and I can hardly remember the funeral, etc. I think I was in shock. It is really settling in now between the still disbelief and the reality. You will go thru stages and whats good about this group is that everyone is at different stages so that to help each other thru each one. Thoughts and prayers to you.

I am so very sorry. I lost my oldest son, too, when he was 24 1/2 years old.

What you are experiencing is the first part of grieving -- shock and denial. And at this point, it is expected for you to feel that way.

You will start to feel it when you are ready to deal with it.

That's OK, and we all deal with it a little differently.

In the meantime, we are all here for you. And please feel free to talk with me anytime you want to.

there is a special group here just for moms who have lost their children, adult or otherwise. It is actually a profile, like a member on here, but the name is "formomsonly". You can find it by putting that name in the search box, and then clicking on "people'. or, you can click on the "people" link and then put the name in that search box. Then clicking on the green "formomsonly' link and it will take you there.