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i HAVE LOST MY BELOVED GRANDSON. PLEASE FORGIVE ME, NOT TO DEATH..
HE WAS LOST IN A CUSTODY CASE. I RAISED HIM SINCE THE DAY HE WAS BORN, BECAUSE BOTH MY SON, (THE BOY'S FATHER) AND THE CHILD'S MOTHER FLAKED.
THEN LAST MAY,AFTER 3 YEARS, SHE APEARS AND HAS COURT ORDER FOR CUSTODY.
SHE HAS LEFT THE STATE, I HAVE NOT SEEN THE CHILD SINCE MAY (7 MONTHS)
I DON'T HAVE THE MEANS TO HIRE AN ATTOERNEY, AND GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS ARE VERY WEAK.
I FEEL YOUR GRIEF OF NEVER SEEING A LOVED ONE AGAIN, NEVR HOLDING THEIR HAND OR SHARING A SPECIAL MOMENT.
I AM TRYULY EXPERIENCING SO MUCH ANXIETY AND GREIF, PANIC ATTACKS, WORRY.
THE HIOLIDAYS ARE UPON US AND I AM ALONE, MY KIDS HAVE ALL LEFT THE STAE AND I FEEL 9I CANNOT GO ON.
I CAN'T WALK THROUGH CHILDREN DEPTS, SEE SCHOOLS, PEOPLE OUT WITH THEIR FAMILIES.
HOW DO YOU ALL COPE?
I HAVE NO EXTENDED FAMILY, HE WAS MY LIFE. I GAVE MY HEART AND SOUL, TO THIS CHILD, AND NOW I CANNOT EAT, SLEEP, AND I AM CONSTANTLY SICK WITH WORRY.
FORGIVE ME IF YOU FEEL I DON'T BELONG HERE, I KNOW YOU WILL TRULY NEVER SEE YOUR LOVED ONE AGAIN, BUT IAM SHARING ALOT OF THE SAME ISSUES.
MAYBE ONEDAY WE WILL BE REUNITED, BUT I CARED FRO HIM AS ONE OF MY OWN, AND MY SON HAS DROPPED OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH, AND THIS GIRL IS REMARRIED AND KNOW THE CHILD HAS "NEW" GRANDPARENTS AND COUSINS AND FULL LIFE.
I DON'T WANT TO TAKE HIM AWAY, JUST SEE HIM ..SHE WON'T COMMUNICATE WITH ME, I HAVE ONLY E-MAIL OR I WOULD BE SENDING GIFTS AND CARDS AND CARE PACKAGES AND ALL HIS BELOVED TOYS AND STUFFED ANIMALS.
I AM INA STATE OF SHOCK AND HAVE NOWHERE TO TURN..NOONE CAN UNDERSTAND, HE DIDN'T DIE, BUT HE IS GONE..
~PEACE BE WITH YOU ALL WHO GRIEVE~
I AM UNABLE TO FACE ANOTHE DAY, HOW DO YOU COPE?? I HAVE NOONE BUT MY THERAPIST ONCE A WEEK WHO I HAVE TO PAY...
PLEASE BE MY COMFORT~ MY LIFE HAS NO JOY WITHOUT THIS CHILD
HE WAS LOST IN A CUSTODY CASE. I RAISED HIM SINCE THE DAY HE WAS BORN, BECAUSE BOTH MY SON, (THE BOY'S FATHER) AND THE CHILD'S MOTHER FLAKED.
THEN LAST MAY,AFTER 3 YEARS, SHE APEARS AND HAS COURT ORDER FOR CUSTODY.
SHE HAS LEFT THE STATE, I HAVE NOT SEEN THE CHILD SINCE MAY (7 MONTHS)
I DON'T HAVE THE MEANS TO HIRE AN ATTOERNEY, AND GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS ARE VERY WEAK.
I FEEL YOUR GRIEF OF NEVER SEEING A LOVED ONE AGAIN, NEVR HOLDING THEIR HAND OR SHARING A SPECIAL MOMENT.
I AM TRYULY EXPERIENCING SO MUCH ANXIETY AND GREIF, PANIC ATTACKS, WORRY.
THE HIOLIDAYS ARE UPON US AND I AM ALONE, MY KIDS HAVE ALL LEFT THE STAE AND I FEEL 9I CANNOT GO ON.
I CAN'T WALK THROUGH CHILDREN DEPTS, SEE SCHOOLS, PEOPLE OUT WITH THEIR FAMILIES.
HOW DO YOU ALL COPE?
I HAVE NO EXTENDED FAMILY, HE WAS MY LIFE. I GAVE MY HEART AND SOUL, TO THIS CHILD, AND NOW I CANNOT EAT, SLEEP, AND I AM CONSTANTLY SICK WITH WORRY.
FORGIVE ME IF YOU FEEL I DON'T BELONG HERE, I KNOW YOU WILL TRULY NEVER SEE YOUR LOVED ONE AGAIN, BUT IAM SHARING ALOT OF THE SAME ISSUES.
MAYBE ONEDAY WE WILL BE REUNITED, BUT I CARED FRO HIM AS ONE OF MY OWN, AND MY SON HAS DROPPED OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH, AND THIS GIRL IS REMARRIED AND KNOW THE CHILD HAS "NEW" GRANDPARENTS AND COUSINS AND FULL LIFE.
I DON'T WANT TO TAKE HIM AWAY, JUST SEE HIM ..SHE WON'T COMMUNICATE WITH ME, I HAVE ONLY E-MAIL OR I WOULD BE SENDING GIFTS AND CARDS AND CARE PACKAGES AND ALL HIS BELOVED TOYS AND STUFFED ANIMALS.
I AM INA STATE OF SHOCK AND HAVE NOWHERE TO TURN..NOONE CAN UNDERSTAND, HE DIDN'T DIE, BUT HE IS GONE..
~PEACE BE WITH YOU ALL WHO GRIEVE~
I AM UNABLE TO FACE ANOTHE DAY, HOW DO YOU COPE?? I HAVE NOONE BUT MY THERAPIST ONCE A WEEK WHO I HAVE TO PAY...
PLEASE BE MY COMFORT~ MY LIFE HAS NO JOY WITHOUT THIS CHILD
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I wish you could afford an attourney, because in most states grandparents have rights. There may be some legal aid society in your area, make a few phone calls find out.
We have all felt that we could not go on, and so far, here we are. We have the strength of each other, and most of us have strength through God. We walk together, step by step, day by day.
I al so sorry that this is happening to you. Sending huggs and prayers that their hearts will soften and they will let you spend time with him. Rainbow
I dreamnt about him last night, and can't seem to let go, I am not moving on.
In the new Year I am going to try to find an advocate or hire an attorney, but he is in Indiana and I am in Calif.
I wa told if visation was permitted, I would have to fly to see him, and all the othe r expenses of staying out of state, car, hotel, etc.
i would walk to the ends of the earth to see him again.
My problem is I want it to be like it was, where he woke up in my home, I got to see him progress, learn to walk and talk. Watch the wolrld in wonder.
I have been robbed, and I don't know how to become a long distance grandmother, so I get mired in the sadness and desperation. I want it all, and feel so guilty that you would all give anything to spend just one more day with your lost loved one. I feel like I am being insensitive to your feelings.
I know life is unfair and sad and horrible things happen to loved ones, I am just overwhelmed with shock and grief.
My life is colorless, and everyday is a struggle to get through.
~Thank You for letting me share~
I want you to know that God will not forget about you, He knows how well you wish this handsome grandsome. I know it is hard to deal with it but all i will say is let pray for divine comfort from God and ask Him for long and healthy life. Because i know if we cast our pain, burden and worry upon Him He will surely make a way. Your grandson is going to come back. With the human understanding it is impossible but with God all things are POSSIBLE. Please don't worry so much God has allowed this to happen so you can regain your strength one time so that when you meet him again, you will be able to play and have fun with him without getting tired. My mum went through the same experience when my 2nd big sister passed away in April 2007 and the husband decided to kick my mum out of the house and keep those three kids that my mum cared for since babyhood. This added more pain to what my mum was going through. But God led me with this message for my mum,I told my mum please don't waste your life because this man has done this to you. Relax and enjoy life, let God be great and know ye that soon these grandchildren will remember you and fight to get in touch with you without anyone being able to stop them. So if you want to experience this precious moments lay all the worry at Christ feet. May God keep and strength you. It is well with you. God bless you. Am here for you. The devil will try to use this against you that you couldn't do nothing to keep him but know what? That is not your battle it happened so that God's name will be GLORIFIED.