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Well today would have been my father's 78th Birthday. He passed away January 4th, 1994. (16 Years ago) Sometimes this time of year goes by without a thought. I will be so busy that the month will be almost over and it will hit me that January just passed by. But for some reason I can't get over this month. I have cried and I can't get my father out of my head. For some reason I feel like I shouldn't be grieving. It has been sixteen years. But I will just go off into thought about my father and end up in tears. I miss my dad greatly but know where he is. Some people may not agree with me, but i believe the day my father left this world he was standing in the presence of Jesus. He kept looking and calling Jesus' name. So I just keep on telling stories of my dad. Also I see more and more of him everytime I look in the mirror. I have his mannerisms, his way of dressing, and other things.
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Bless your heart ~ I get very pensive around my Dad's birthday (December 18th) and I lost him 20 years ago. It seems like just a few days ago that I told him goodbye -- I miss him so. I was alot like my dad, even tho I'm female. He and I used to "play-fight" verbally and it would mortify my sisters -- they didn't know we were kidding! LOL
I don't think it's really "grieving" because you still cry when you think of him. It's more missing him and perhaps a "little depression?" I know that I can think of many things that I wish I had said to my Father before he died. That happens all too often. We always think we have more time -- but we don't.
I'm sure my Dad is in heaven too -- I think that hell is here on earth. My God is a loving, forgiving God, and He received my Dad with open arms. I know that you and I will see our Dads when our time comes. God bless you ~ and please take care. Hugs, Lee
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Hi coutryb1.I am so sorry that you have been separated from your dad, for so long.I have learned that there is no dimension called time,in the world of grief.Anyone that has lost someone that meant the world to them,can close their eyes,think of that person,and it is as if time stood still.You can still see their smile and hear their laugh.The last words uttered are as clear in the mind,as when they were spoken.Whether it has been 1 year or 18 or 25,makes little difference.My husband died in my arms 11 years ago,and yet if I close my eyes and think of him,I can still smell his after shave.He also spoke to Jesus at his passing.It will be a glorious day when in the blink of an eye,we will be with them And from that day on,we will never be separated again.I look forward to meeting your dad.If I get their before you,I will tell him to put his arms around you,and kiss your cheek on every Jan 4th.Peace.......Cheryl
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I know what you mean. Thats the thing about parents. They are always with you and the oddest things bring them back. I lost my mom 36 years ago when I was a teenager. I have those moments. I think they are the same moments people with living parents have when they think, I need to call mom, or I need a hug, or when you just want to sit with someone who knows how you feel without words. We lost that, but the moments are still there. I'm happy that you know your dad is alive and well and waiting for you. Be kind to yourself and be proud that you have parts of him in you.
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