I just joined the group today and I need advice My 70-year old mother became sick December 11, 2006, and passed on January 15 2007. My mother and father were married 49 1/2 years. They were best friends since they were 6. To say the least, he is having a horrible time dealing with my Mom being gone. A few weeks ago, I noticed that he started sounding really depressed and I became very worried about him. We talked and he admitted that he was becoming depressed. I was gone for a few days and came home to find out that my father had joined a couple of senior citizens widow support groups and had been emailing a woman several times. He then met her and they hit it off. He has seen her a lot in the last few weeks. I really glad that his voice sounds better and not so depressed. Although, he can break down easily when he starts talking about my Mom. He has said that he is not trying to replace my mother and is not trying to disrespect her memory. I have no problem with my Dad seeing this woman. He had to do something or he would have given up wanting to live. My concern is that he is putting too much feeling and trust into this other woman too soon. I'm afraid he is making this woman a replacement for my Mom, so he doesn't feel the pain. I'm afraid he hasn't griefed enough before spending so much time with someone else. I'm worried about him using this other woman as a rebound person. I know I have a lot of concerns and I only want the best for my Dad. I don't want to see him hurt. He's hurting enough. Does anyone have some advice?
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