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I thought that I would say a little bit about my boys.
Shawn my 8 year old was happy go lucky and always trying to make people laugh just a good boy and very loving. He was a the babysitters house who lived two houses from us. He had come home and asked if he could go across the street to see his friend Nathan and we had done this before.Nathans mom or dad would always walk Shawnie acroos the street. So I wasn't feeling good that day and had just been vomiting and laid down on my bed and as I did I thought" I should just have Shawnie come home in case I fall asleep. But before I knew it I was out like a light! the next thin I remember was screaming from my oldest son and daughter saying that Shawn was hit by a car. We speny the next 72 hours in the hospital hoping for a miracle. I didn't come.the doctors told us that he was brain dead and we made the choice to take him off of life support. We then choose to have him be an organ donor. He passed on April 1st 2004 ( April fools day? )
My Oldest son Cody and I always talked abot Shawnie and how much we missed him. My daughter really didn't talk about it too much. But she had spent 8 months in a mental hospital after trying to take her own life after Shawn was killed.
Anyway, Cody was 19 and just starting to get his life in order, he went through some stuff after his brother died.things were looking up. he had just gotten a really good job at a bakery and was making good money.I spoke to him earlier on the day that he died, but he sounded preoccupied. We talked for just a few minutes ,the basic hey what's up? What ya doin? blah, blah, blah.Cody said that he had just gotten off of work ( the night shift ) and he was tired and was going to lie down and asked if he could call later. I said of course. And we said I love you to each other. That was at 2pm or so and when I didn't heard back from him by 7pm that night I called him and got no answer. I recieved a phone call at about 8pm saying he had been in a bad wreck and that was it nothing more was told to me. I couldn't figure out how peeople knew he had an accident but no one would tell me where or what hospital to go to. I then found out that he was killed and no one wantef to tell me. So by the time I got to the hospital they still did not have Cody there yet due to the investigation. It seemed like a bad dream ( still does ) Finally I was able to see my precious Cody A site I will live with forever.
This was April 12th 2007 ( Easter Sunday )
Cody was just the neatest kid he too was very loving funny and were had not only been mother and son but he was a great friend too.
I have a myspace address that tells more in detail the things that I am going through with his case and all of the lies and cover ups. Too musct to type on here. But the guy that was driving the car was arresed and charged with wreckless homicide , in Sept. and will go to court Nov. 15th to make a plea. He still denies driving and using drugs adn drinking. He did not pass the drug and alchol tests... Cody had nothing in his system. my myspace address is www.myspace.com/chelbyfish
Shawn my 8 year old was happy go lucky and always trying to make people laugh just a good boy and very loving. He was a the babysitters house who lived two houses from us. He had come home and asked if he could go across the street to see his friend Nathan and we had done this before.Nathans mom or dad would always walk Shawnie acroos the street. So I wasn't feeling good that day and had just been vomiting and laid down on my bed and as I did I thought" I should just have Shawnie come home in case I fall asleep. But before I knew it I was out like a light! the next thin I remember was screaming from my oldest son and daughter saying that Shawn was hit by a car. We speny the next 72 hours in the hospital hoping for a miracle. I didn't come.the doctors told us that he was brain dead and we made the choice to take him off of life support. We then choose to have him be an organ donor. He passed on April 1st 2004 ( April fools day? )
My Oldest son Cody and I always talked abot Shawnie and how much we missed him. My daughter really didn't talk about it too much. But she had spent 8 months in a mental hospital after trying to take her own life after Shawn was killed.
Anyway, Cody was 19 and just starting to get his life in order, he went through some stuff after his brother died.things were looking up. he had just gotten a really good job at a bakery and was making good money.I spoke to him earlier on the day that he died, but he sounded preoccupied. We talked for just a few minutes ,the basic hey what's up? What ya doin? blah, blah, blah.Cody said that he had just gotten off of work ( the night shift ) and he was tired and was going to lie down and asked if he could call later. I said of course. And we said I love you to each other. That was at 2pm or so and when I didn't heard back from him by 7pm that night I called him and got no answer. I recieved a phone call at about 8pm saying he had been in a bad wreck and that was it nothing more was told to me. I couldn't figure out how peeople knew he had an accident but no one would tell me where or what hospital to go to. I then found out that he was killed and no one wantef to tell me. So by the time I got to the hospital they still did not have Cody there yet due to the investigation. It seemed like a bad dream ( still does ) Finally I was able to see my precious Cody A site I will live with forever.
This was April 12th 2007 ( Easter Sunday )
Cody was just the neatest kid he too was very loving funny and were had not only been mother and son but he was a great friend too.
I have a myspace address that tells more in detail the things that I am going through with his case and all of the lies and cover ups. Too musct to type on here. But the guy that was driving the car was arresed and charged with wreckless homicide , in Sept. and will go to court Nov. 15th to make a plea. He still denies driving and using drugs adn drinking. He did not pass the drug and alchol tests... Cody had nothing in his system. my myspace address is www.myspace.com/chelbyfish
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So sad. I can't begin to imagine losing one child, much less two. I hope they throw the book at him. Praying for you. Rainbow
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ia, so very sorry for your losses that is just too horrible for words as rainbow says i hope they throw the book at him .why is it assholes like him still walk the earth and the good ones are taken from us?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
