Hi Sweetie I am so so sorry for your loss. To cry I think is a healthy way to release some of the bad feelings that go with the death of a loved one. I can't quite think very well on the issue of your Mom's ring. Is it possible to speak to other family members about it? Soft Hugs, Deb

I'm really sorry about losing your mom. Mom's are special people. Let yourself be sad and cry as often as you need to. Your loss is real and you have a right to grieve. I'm here to help. Sharon

I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom. You will probably have so many different emotions to handle... As for the ring situation, maybe you could talk with other family members and come to a decision, if it truy means that much to you. I can think along both ways. We had traveled to Italy a few months before JIm's sudden death. He had purchased this Italian ring for himself, he LOVED it. After he died, I thought about giving it to our son, but my son is really NOT into jewelry, but what happened was that I in my mind could NOT take it away from him. He loved it so much.. When my mom died she also had a mother's ring. I remember when she was in the hospital once, it got stolen right off of her finger. She was soooo upset. The following mother's day we bought her another one. I also could not take it from her, it was just how I felt at the time.. Being her only daughter, and if it truly brings you comfort, maybe it would be o.k. for you to keep it. I am not sure what to say, this is such a difficult time for you, I am soooooooo sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.. Hugs, Alice

iam sorry for your loss,wanting to die too,is normal,she out of pain, prayers too you and your family,love bluebird

Catie16,
I am so very sorry to hear about your Mothers passing,,,my heart goes out to you. And the feeling of wanting to die to be with her,,is only natural,,,But remember you must live your life,,for it was a gift to you,,just as it was for your Mother. I can relate all so well,,my only brother passed away last March. It just felt so unreal,,,but we must realize that death is a part of life,,just as birth is. But the pain your feeling right now, No One can take away,,No One can say anything to make it better,,I know,,and understand...Your Mother is resting in peace,,,a sweet sleep,,and you will meet again with her,,and she will know you,,and you two will rejoice together once again. Hold on tight to that thought. I'm going to give you my opinion on the ring,,and many will probably say I'm wrong. But I feel that you should have it,,in my eyes it should go to you. Your Mother would want you to have it,,,I'm sure,,No Doubt in my mind. But please cry the tears,,let them flow,,,don't hold any back. This will help with the grief,,,,and remember,,shes only at rest,,a rest we all will get,,at our appointed time. I am so very sorry once again for your lose,,,you will be in my prayers,,,I will pray for comfort for you and your family.........Spiritual love,,I send your way.

At this moment we should all pray for your relief of the sorry you feel tonight. Can I tell you one. Kari told us when she past it was into the light shortly after I told her when it comes go...we will always love you.
She let us know she felt know pain. She let us know and continues to let us know she is happy, free from fear, free from pain and very much alive. The same for my mother who came through to me as well. So please don't lose sight of the fact....honestly....she is free of our know pain in this world and you did a very wonderful thing for her.
The ring.....I am sure she would put it on your finger if she could.
Peace to you as we all pray tonight and each for your strength in these next days. Love the Beem Family

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 3 years ago and my grandson on 1/29/09. From my experience with my dad the pain never really goes away and will hit you out of the blue but it will become less intense. My dad had a St. Christophers medal that he never took off and we were going to bury him with it but as the last minute before they closed his casket for the last time I made them remove it and I wore it all the time for the 1st year and now I wear it when I want to feel close to him. If you have siblings that is a blessing in itself, I am an only child and had no siblings to help me with my grief. When my grandson died I was so angry at my dad because I felt like he let it happen. I have since come to terms with that anger and understand that he did not let anything happen. Sorry for rambling but sometimes it helps when you know you are not alone in your grief.
Christie

I am very sorry about the loss of your mom. My mom passed 10 years ago in Jan. When a mom passes, it leaves a real void because they are the one who gave us life. Let yourself grieve, it's part of the healing process. You will have good days and bad days for a while. Things will trigger memories, etc. As far as the ring goes, I would discuss this with your family and then do what your heart tells you.

My prayers are with you and your family during this time.

God Bless

Oldbiker

I am so sorry my friend, you are not alone..In my very recent experience, i have felt the same way..Like my life is over..like i will never have joy again..I know this is not my parents wish...I think it is a response of deep grief and shock...I think it's really important to live one day at a time and try not to look at the future right now...it will look too bleak...Breath..Breath...Take care..be very gentle with yourself.

Dear Catie, I am sorry to hear about your mom.What you are feeling is normal. It's a scary time after losing a parent. This person brought us and to the world and cared for us and was usually always there for us. They were the one we could run to when life wasn't being nice and they were the one we couldn't wait to tell when something great happened. They have been with us our whole life and now they are gone. Of course your going to feel like you want to go with her. I hope I can say this next thing and get it to come out with compassion, the way I mean it to. Your mother like mine hadn't been the mother we know for quite sometime. They were not able to live a the quality of life that they had prior to being sick and we know there wasn't a chance of anything getting better. Because we loved them it hurt us deeply to see them that way. They don't hurt anymore they are free of pain and suffering and that is really what we wanted even though we didn't want to let them go.
Life has changed from the way we knew it. It will take time to grieve and to adjust and in our own time we will. So go ahead and cry just know you will make it through this. I am here for you if you need to talk.
As far as the ring I'm not sure what to tell you. That's a difficult question. I agree talk with your family members. Maybe you could give her a ring or piece of something that means a lot to you in it's place then you will have each have something from one another that meant something besides the love that you each take with you.
Take caare my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Barb

I have not lost my parents yet, but they not in good health and are in their 70s..I have lost my loving Grandmother though. I have a few things from her and they help me through the worst times of missing her. I agree with giving your Mom something of yours and taking her ring so you have something to hold on to physically. I'm sure she would be ok with it. God Bless You..I will keep you in my prayers..Lori

I lost my mother about 8 weeks ago. It is the worst thing I have ever gone through, even though I lost my dad 13 years ago. I felt the same way about wanting to be with her. I didn't want to be here anymore. The only constant in my life has been my mom and now that is gone. I am doing better with these thoughts, but I can't say they're gone. I feel guilty if I am happy or laugh. I know that is wrong. Nothing that mattered to me before her death matters anymore even though I am trying to keep doing the things I was. I love to hike and exercise. This is a good thing to do now, but it is difficult to get out there. I can cry at the drop of a hat still, but that part is okay. It's just that a lot of people don't understand that. I think that is the hardest thing with grieving...you don't want to do it in front of people. I don't like to bring others down. I don't want anyone to say "She lived a long life". I'm sorry, but that doesn't help. As far as the ring goes that your mother has, that is a difficult one. I, too, would want it for a close reminder of my mom, but you have to be able to be comfortable with your decision. It is a very final decision. We had a similiar situation, but with a cat. My mom wanted my nephew to have her. We didn't feel he was going to stay in Las Vegas and didn't want him to have the cat for fear he wouldn't care well enough for her. My sister, (his mother) took the cat to her house. The cat was not happy there and ended up going to my nephew. It has been great. The cat is happy and so are we. My sister told me she felt so guilty not honoring my mom's wishes. We all did. You just have to be comfortable with your decision. It's what you can live with. It's hard enough to live with the loss, don't put the guilt on top of it. That is just my opinion. I would definitely talk to other members of your family. With their support or suggestions, it might make it easier.

Catie, I'm SO SORRY for your loss! I lost my Mom on 10/24/08 and I still feel the way you do. I want to die so I can be with Jesus and with my Mom and Dad. But I know somehow I must go on as long as I am here. We have to find the strength to do it. It helps to vent here on DS. There is a Motherless Daughters grouop here on DS that helped me a lot. You might want to check it out.

I am so so sorry for you loss nothing i say will make you feel better other than 2 say we are here for u. take care sending loads of love and hugs x

Catie, I wish I could give you some magic words, but I am also looking for some way to understand as well.
I guess we should find comfort in the fact that our loved ones are no longer suffering and are able to rest.