i feel the same.. either one can cross my mind at anytime and i just break down and cry.

sometimes i like to fantasize that they left to help someone else.. i dont know.. maybe the pain never stops. im told to remember the good times. i cant remember any. i never really knew mine. maybe thats what bothers me most.. the things i wish i could tell them now. etc. youre not alone

Many people here know exactly how you feel. I am not a dreamer but sometimes I really wish that I could talk to her so badly...I think about going to a psychic and I've always been a skeptic! I can't imagine now being able to say goodbye before your mom left this earth...that has to be so hard! You obviously had a good relationship and I'm sure she knew you loved her dearly...that gives me a little comfort becuase I KNOW my mother knew I loved her very much...Your mom's spirit will always live within you in your heart...I can't wait until I am able to share stories about my momma with my child...hang in there:)

I am so sorry for your loss, I really understand your pain. (((hugs))) I too am missing my Mom all the time...She passed away Oct. 19 and I think about her and cry all day long. She was a great Nana to my year old son and now he will never know her. I also am struggling with communicating with her. I want to make sure she is OK and that she knows how much I love her. I do know that the Catholic and many other religions frown on this because they consider mediums and psychics to be of the devil. I am not so sure I agree with that line of thinking. My struggle is more with whether or not humans can really communicate with those who have passed, are mediums just awesome con artists? I hope not, because it is comforting to think that our loved ones are around us even after death and that SOMEONE can see them. I think (and someone PLEASE correct me if I am wrong) The Catholic religion believes that we all go to purgatory until judgement day. Then God decides who goes to heaven. All of our prayers for our loved ones help them enter the gates of heaven once that day comes. My Mom is eternally prayed for every day by many churches thanks to donations by loving friends. I also pray for her and now that I think of it will start praying the rosary every day in in honor. (My Mom was a devout Catholic. I go to a Catholic Church because of her, but was never baptized or put through Catechism so my knowledge is not the best). It is important to continue to pray for your loved one to enter heaven once they have passed because the prayers count in their favor. Also, in the Catholic religion, praying to the Mother Mary and the Saints will help you gain special favor with God as God is not on "direct dial" all time. Again, PLEASE someone correct me if I am wrong.

Losing a parent is one of the hardest things we can go through. I lost my mom when I was 16, that was 32 years ago and I STILL miss and mourn her missing my entire life. She never saw me grow up, graduate from college, have my 3 beautiful boys or there to just have a soft shoulder to cry on.

I really don't believe we can communicate with the dead, but I do believe they (our loved ones) are with us in spirit. Our mom's would want us to be happy and to remember the good times, so we must take the negative images, the regrets, the sorrow and turn it into positive memories... like when I was 5, I was in the kitchen with my mom baking chocolate chip cookies. I remember thinking the eggs were balls and I threw them on the ground, my mom's face was priceless... always remember the time we had... Take care all.