The simple awful truth is we can never know for absolute sure where our sons are or how they are now that they have left this life. Somehow, someway we have to find peace in what is. We will only know their reality after our time here is over. I crave the same knowlege you do, but I know it not possible to have an answer. I hope you find peace.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know that when my son got killed, one of the things that helped me was a scripture from 2 Corinthians chp 5 and verse 8, We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord. I was so hurt and all I wanted was confirmation as to where my sons soul would be, God impressed this scripture in mind and I have held onto it ever since. It brings me peace and comfort in knowing that one day I will be able to see him again. I hope that this will help you. I will be praying for you.
Love
Debbie

Compared to this world, it is not hard for me to understand that they are at peace. In this life there is trouble. Just because he is no longer with you, that does not mean he was not a perfect father. Each of our days are numbered. We just have to do the best we can. If his daughter knows his love, her love for him will never end. He will be that perfect father forever in her memory.

I have read many books and will continue to read many books on this subject. I believe some of these people are real. It helps me believe they are real. I have not lost a child but a mother that was more than a mother. It helps believe she is happy where she is because she is with me. She really is not missing anything. Your son will not miss a thing and will be that perfect father and the love that will be forever and when he and his daughter meet he will be able to tell her he never missed a thing and it will be as though he never left because he didn't. He is also always with you and know that your time here isn't forever. You will be with him sooner than you think and it will also be as though you were never apart.

i too am skeptical as to whetheror not they are for real, went to a few of them and said nothing or showed no emotions just to see just where they were coming from, i do believe there are people who are for real, its just finding them and if the timing is right as if they, the lost loved one steps forward, i try not to be skeptical cause i am sure that there are people out there with this magnificent gift, its just a matter of finding them

Thx for all responses and kind words of support........ but I believe I have pretty much accepted the loss and moved on. What I really was looking for was specific answers to my two questions.
A few of you have touched on the questions a little, but I was looking for some more specific answers addressing the conflicts of the two questions (maybe Bible has answer? or mediums learning from their work?)
Bob

Hi.
Really don't want this thread to die. Does anyone have some insight into the two questions I ask?????
Thx
Bob

I am a spiritualist and have been for the last 3 yrs. We believe the spirit lives on after death and therefore your son can help and guide his daughter without her knowledge, although children are very much aware of spirit presence. With regards to mediums some do work psychicly i.e usung the persons energies to relate information back. A good medium will be able to give you information that is only known to you, possibly something very simple like the washing line broke.
Any time your granddaughter thinks about her daddy he will be listening

this is exactly what i believe is happening even among most of the "authentic" psychics. they themselves may believe this is coming from the other side but really is the ability to read and sense the other persons thoughts and history. i must say tho that there are psychics who come up with irrefutable information about there being something definitely unknown to the living individual that the dead person informs the psychic about and the relative goes and discovers it sure enough..i have been to a psychic on a number of occasions, same person mostly. i was careful to give no clues by my face, tone, dress, etc. she was overall good, very good on the past, but off on a number of things in the future. there is nothing about the past that she said that wasnt true, but all of it could certainly have been read from my mind. i am interested if anyone has had an experience that would give evidence that the info wasnt all just from their own head. i have read a number of books on the subject, and i think much of it is not true, even if sincere..like alot of sylvia brown's ideas. i have no doubt about telepathy being valid,..we just dont know how it works.

on your first question, i have heard people's near death experience being a close shave rather than the final exit because they say they could not, would not leave their children. so even as one is dying this seems to cause caring parents to return if there is any choice in the matter. so it doesnt make sense that a loving dad would be ok about leaving their child..and i would also tend to assume there was no choice in the matter. i think if there is any afterlife the issues that seem overwhelmingly important to us in this dimension probably fall away when knowing and in the presence of the Greatest Truths.

there is no way that george anderson could have possibly guessed some of the things he told me. they were way too personal, and described specific things that only my son and i knew. i look for specifics, and i believe george anderson is the real deal. he is the only medium ever invited by anne franks family to their home in holland, and i researched him very carefully before i had him read for me. he has been tested extensively, and i am still amazed when i listen to the reading on tape. i am 100 percent assured it is my son getting thru to him in the reading.