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My dad will pass within the nest couple of days. I made some calls, shopping for prices re final arrangements. Feels wierd to shop for this.
When my mom died I was totally unprepared. It happened in the middle of the night, I was told that I had 3 hours to have her body removed. Had to use the phone book, OMG!!! This time I decided to be prepared, I even got a quote, $609.50! They will return him to me in a pretty box inside a pretty bag. Then I have to start scattering him at all the right places. OMG!!! I so don't like this.
My daughter is having a hard time understanding why the old man is lingering, it's hard to be young and facing this for the first time. She wasn't here when her grandmother or brother died, this is her first close involvement. We tell her this is just how it goes, not like on tv...hard
When my mom died I was totally unprepared. It happened in the middle of the night, I was told that I had 3 hours to have her body removed. Had to use the phone book, OMG!!! This time I decided to be prepared, I even got a quote, $609.50! They will return him to me in a pretty box inside a pretty bag. Then I have to start scattering him at all the right places. OMG!!! I so don't like this.
My daughter is having a hard time understanding why the old man is lingering, it's hard to be young and facing this for the first time. She wasn't here when her grandmother or brother died, this is her first close involvement. We tell her this is just how it goes, not like on tv...hard
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This was my first time I was involved in all the picking out details....it was hard and tiring and long....appt after appt.
Thought life would never return to normal or be okay. But I am and life is going on and she is in my heart forever as yours will be too.
You will be okay and the daughter will be too.
I share your sorrow.
Love Rhea
I'm sorry for your pain. It truly does suck!
My Mom, God rest her soul, took care of almost all her arrangements before she passed away. She had paid for her plot, vault, marker, and had even picked out her casket. We (or pretty much me) had to take care of a few details and be sure any extra were paid for. YOu don't think about some of these things but it cost $150.00 to place chairs and the gravesite and take them back down! Can you imagine that?? Trust me when I say I learned a whole lot about funerals when she passed and her handling this for me was a very precious thing for her to do. She knew out of the three of her kids, I was the one that took responsibilty for her and her needs. All I can say it that I can't begin to tell you how much that meant to me. It allowed me to go through the grief proscess easier and sooner with those things being done.
On the other hand, my sister who is so ill will not do any of these things. She would not have helped me with our Mom had Mom not tended to these things for me. Momma knew how it would be for me and did what she could and she did it way before she got sick.
I know your Dad is not in a situation to do that for you know but it sounds like he is having a direct creamation. My Dad is doing that as well. However, where we live that still costs around $2000.00. Was you Dad ever in the Military? If he was, they will pay for him a marker. The cost to lay it will have to be paid for by family but they do provide a nice marker.
I have a cousin that does volunteer work to help military families do this sort of thing when the time comes. If you need some info, you can pm me and I will get you what you need....or at least try.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Remember to take care of yourself right now too. Sometimes when we are going through this kind of life event we have a tendancy to not properly care for the one person that needs its most......us.
Barb
I made my mother's arrangements last Monday.
Even though I had made my Dad's 30 years ago, it was still very difficult.
I pray that as you grieve for your father, your memories of him and his love for you will serve to comfort and to heal your heart.
Len
We were run off our feet for over a month. Just now done. Remember too.... Water! Drink water! Made me feel a lot bettter. With winter and tears so often people get dehydrated. Easily.
We are here if you want to talk.
Love Rhea