After a long an painful battle my family suffered the loss of my Dad yesterday. So far the hardest part is that I am heartbroken and I need my Mom now more than ever. But she is heartbroken and she needs ME. She is in absolute disbelief, as his BMT doctor told is that the goal was for him to go into remission. Another doctor who just happened to treat him for something minor informed us that he was terminal and only had a few days left. So needless to say she is delong with a great deal of anger on top of the sadness of losing her husband of 23 years. Me, well...I now understand what people mean when they say that they feel empty inside. I actually feel like there is a space in my left stomach/chest area about 2 feet long and 6 inches wide that is missing. Strange, I think. It actually feels hollow. But my main concern is for my Mother. She is 62 and not in the best of health. When we were talking I was looking into her eyes and it looked like a piece of her died with my Father. I'm trying SO hard not to be selfish but I REALLY need my Mom to be ok. I need her but more importantly I want to help her in any way I can. I want to help her grieve and I want to help her adjust to her new life. But I don't know how. I feel so helpless. What can I do? Say? I guess I'm looking for a little advice or words of wisdom.
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