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Lost mom when I was a baby..

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I lost my mother when I was a baby and have no memories of her at all. I have had no counseling for this (I tried and was blown off) and have had a hole all my life. It was a hush-hush subject all my life. I felt I was not allowed to ask any questions about my own mom in my own home as my dad married again and we had a "new mom". They had children together who she treated totally different than the first two of us. The different treatment even continues now into adulthood. I left home ASAP as soon as I was old enough and able to and moved cross country and never looked back.
I am hurt to the heart when I see mothers and daughter out shopping together and look alike, having fun and acting like best friends. My own husband has such a close relationship with his mother and he just doesn't understand my pain. He won't until she passes away.
I think it is different than an adoptee who may have the chance to find their mother someday. It's a really, deep, dark pain.
I lost my dad in my 30's yet I could accept that since I knew him.
Is anyone else here with this same pain???
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So sorry for your loss!! Miss my Mom everyday!! Still have my Dad. PLEASE!! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!! Best thing you can do for those who Love you!!! BE STRONG!!!
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I haven't had that experience, but I can understand how you would feel. It's too bad you can't get closer to and enjoy his mom. I know it would never be the same, but I had a wonderful, loving relationship with my MIL, and it made up for some of what mom couldn't give me. I loved them both dearly. Rainbow
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I cant even imagine such a terrible pain. I know my mother and I are very close and we continue to get closer each day. When she moved to Florida, I moved here 5 months later leaving the rest of my family and friends behind. I think you should continue to pursue counseling and there are other people out there in your shoes, it's just a matter of finding them and this site is a good place to start. Good Luck and again, I'm sorry for you loss.
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I would like to be close to my MIL but she is a gossip who tells the rest of the family anything you say to her so I feel I cannot get close to her. She also likes to find peoples weak spots and then pushes those buttons until you can't take it anymore. I just don't understand a grown woman who behaves the way she does. She was a spoiled child and still acts like a spoiled child where I had only myself to depend on and had to grow up fast and work for living. I married later in life so I supported myself for many years, she never worked. Went from her parents home to being married so she has always been taken care of and expects everyone to cater to her. I've had many wonderful "best friends" through the years, but my best friend has moved away and I miss her dearly!
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I lost my mom when I was 11. I have some memories of her but most of them are of her in the hospital just before she died. She was only 35 when she died. I have felt my whole life that there was a deep void that couldn't be filled. I am here to talk if you need me.
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I so relate to your issue. I lost my mother when I was a toddler. Only difference btw me and you is that I never saw a picture of my mother nor do I know any of your family members. I relate very well with you, especially when you wish you could have what others take for granted. We will always have a void and a longing for someone who we wish to love, to share stories, to cry with, to laugh with. Just to say 'MOMMY I LOVE YOU"
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My dad left when I was a baby and I know some of the dark side of your pain. Like a hole or missing part of you.Being cheated out of a parents life and love is a horrific loss. I doubt anyone can understand it unless they have been there.
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I'm sorry the last three of us are in the same boat, but I have never met anyone else with the same experience as I. I would love to talk to you all and see what feelings you had through life through messaging.
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I lost my Dad in May, 2007. I was angry with him and I, too, moved half way across country because of this anger. And now I will never see him again. The last time I saw him was the day of his funeral... my fiance and I went back to Wisconsin (I currently live in Washington State) to attend his funeral. Very sad time. I still have Mom, but I do miss Dad. I am going to a Grief Support group to help me cope as I didn't really learn any coping skills growing up... hoping this group will teach me some. Anyway... please add me to your friends list. I would like to keep in contact with you. Take Care of yourself and I hope to hear from you soon. And always remember... nobody truly understands unless they've gone thru it themselves. That's what we're here for... each other !
Always,
Karen
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