I am so sorry you have to go through this. It may not seem like it now, but you will gradually settle into a new normal and land on your feet. You are stronger than you think. God knows what you can handle.

I lost my boyfriend and mother unexpectedly a week and a half apart in 2002, and lost my dad, with whom I was very close, in April 2020.

Your loss is still so recent. It might take time for you to fully process everything. It is different for everybody. Be gentle with yourself, practice self-care, and put one foot in front of the other. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there and keep going.

M111557, My heart goes out to you, I have just passed the 3 month anniversary of my wife's passing after a 4 or 5 year battle with MSA Parkinson's. We had an empty nest so to say but we had each other and that was our world. It was more then enough for us. We still made room for our family especially the grandchild who was her world towards the end. I am well aware of the lonely and the big question of what to do now. I can tell you it does get a little better with time as everyone here will tell you. You are not alone as many people here will help. Take some time and read through what people have written, then to help myself I have written and answered people with what knowledge I have about what I went through, daughter also. Everyone is different in how they cope. Perhaps some members from your church? You can never tell who may help you if you if you don't try. You may find friends you never knew you had. We all need friends and someone to talk to even if it is online, with covid it might be the best we can do.

I can't look at his pictures or i just cry.
Do i put them away.
I took off my wedding ring because when i look at that get depressed.
I have gotten rid of a lot of his clothes, n went through all his boxes..
I am giving away a lot of stuff too.
I am doing all this to help myself cope.
I just cannot do it with the stuff all around me.

It's so hard. I can relate. What I've found, is there is no right or wrong way to react after a loved one passes. Do whatever you feel you need to do to keep your head above water. It sounds like you are doing that. And it's okay to cry. Little by little it will get easier to get through each day.. Sending hugs.

Thank you, he just had his obituary in the paper which made it Real.
But I now remember the person I have been missing is the person that use to be here.
The one that passed away, was extremely sick with above the knee amputation an kidney failure plus a host of other things.
He was not himself. So its best he went to be with Jesus.
I guess its all about perspective.

While I lost my son and dad, not my husband just remember to breathe...and eat...sending strength and prayers...

Big hug for you M111.... I am so very sorry for your loss and the pain that you're in...

We have a Widows and Widowers group on here that's active with some wonderful people

People on there are in different stages of healing... I'll give you a link... big hug....

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/widows-widowers