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Hi all,
I'm looking for help. I suffer from panic attacks and when I say suffer, I mean suffer. I have always had trouble with the Fall. Well this year came and I was doing fine until I got the awful phone call on October 6th. My family and I had decided to go on a week hunting trip to the middle of nowhere, we were having a good time until we finally made it into town to check our messages. On our cel phones there were these messages from a lady that was my mom's landlord. I could hear my mom screaming in the back and crying. She informed us that my sister Kelly had died. I didn't understand. We packed up and headed back. I talked to my dad, mom and anybody else in New Mexico that I could trying to piece together what had happened.
My sister was suffering from Cushing's Disease. They discovered this last year in August. Her blood pressure was through the roof. 300/150. She was gaining weight at an alarming rate and she started to grow a beard. Well the doctors and my mom took their time getting her into the hospital but the week before she had the surgery and was fine. They discharged her, and made appointments for followups. 7 days later, she was dead. I can't make sense of it. We weren't that close, in fact we kind of danced around each other to avoid confrontations. I'm not sure why she didn't like me. But I'm wondering if it was the disease. And I feel bad that if it was the disease I didn't love her enough to see past her hostile behavior. She has always been the favorite for my mom and dad. In fact my dad doesn't really recognize me. I'm older, 39, have 2 teen aged kids 17 and 18. I feel that they feel that they lost their only child.
Last Friday I got a phone call from a friend and said that my mom had just had a heart attack and they were transporting her to the University Hospital. My stomach fell another 3 feet. It felt like the world was ending. Well come to find out she had a leison and a pollup in her colon and it was making her blood pressure rise. She's a chain smoker and they are not to amused with her diet. Then they did a ct on her and found to "suspicious" spots on her liver. I know that I cant' handle 2 deaths in one year. I will loose it.
I have come to the part in my grieving, where I think what's the point we are all going to die. At the rate I'm going it could be today. I wake up panicing. I have no appetite, my family is concerned. I could use some encouraging words from other people
PLEASE HELP
Lost in the Black cloud
Brenda
I'm looking for help. I suffer from panic attacks and when I say suffer, I mean suffer. I have always had trouble with the Fall. Well this year came and I was doing fine until I got the awful phone call on October 6th. My family and I had decided to go on a week hunting trip to the middle of nowhere, we were having a good time until we finally made it into town to check our messages. On our cel phones there were these messages from a lady that was my mom's landlord. I could hear my mom screaming in the back and crying. She informed us that my sister Kelly had died. I didn't understand. We packed up and headed back. I talked to my dad, mom and anybody else in New Mexico that I could trying to piece together what had happened.
My sister was suffering from Cushing's Disease. They discovered this last year in August. Her blood pressure was through the roof. 300/150. She was gaining weight at an alarming rate and she started to grow a beard. Well the doctors and my mom took their time getting her into the hospital but the week before she had the surgery and was fine. They discharged her, and made appointments for followups. 7 days later, she was dead. I can't make sense of it. We weren't that close, in fact we kind of danced around each other to avoid confrontations. I'm not sure why she didn't like me. But I'm wondering if it was the disease. And I feel bad that if it was the disease I didn't love her enough to see past her hostile behavior. She has always been the favorite for my mom and dad. In fact my dad doesn't really recognize me. I'm older, 39, have 2 teen aged kids 17 and 18. I feel that they feel that they lost their only child.
Last Friday I got a phone call from a friend and said that my mom had just had a heart attack and they were transporting her to the University Hospital. My stomach fell another 3 feet. It felt like the world was ending. Well come to find out she had a leison and a pollup in her colon and it was making her blood pressure rise. She's a chain smoker and they are not to amused with her diet. Then they did a ct on her and found to "suspicious" spots on her liver. I know that I cant' handle 2 deaths in one year. I will loose it.
I have come to the part in my grieving, where I think what's the point we are all going to die. At the rate I'm going it could be today. I wake up panicing. I have no appetite, my family is concerned. I could use some encouraging words from other people
PLEASE HELP
Lost in the Black cloud
Brenda
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Brenda, you have so much to live for, hang on tight to your kids love, they need to have you with them. You have had a loss and it takes time to heal, even if it wasn't the best of relationships. Yes, we are all going to die. It's not about how we die, it's about how we live our life. Let yours be a testament of love and know that God loves you and will help you through this black cloud and into His loving light. Liz
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Sorry you are going thru a difficult time. Losing a close relative causes so many mixed emotions to surface. But keep in mind we can't be close and loving with everyone. Do the best you can in dealing everything going on and reach out for support. And try not to think negatively.
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