it is natural that you would miss your mom at this time of your life. i know when gavin was sick, i really missed my dad. i just wanted him to hug me. and he had been gone 4 1/2 years at that time. is there something of your mom's that you can plan and carry with you that day? something that would fit into one these, something old, something borrow, something new or something blue. hugs Jan

Thank so much! It will make me cry, but that is a great idea! Hugs to you too, Jan.

She'll be there............believe it! Huggs, Rainbowmama

You mom is with you everyday. If it helps try working in her favorite flower into your wedding flowers. If she had a favorite perfume wear it that day. If you are getting married in a church go a little early and light a candle for her too.

It is perfectly normal to miss her at this time but if you incorporate a few little touches that remind you of her then it is like she was there to help you.

Thank you all for all your wonderful feedback, and have a great day! I'm very content with your support.

Although I dont have the stress you have, I lost my crutch that helped me tremendously with this loss, my boyfriend. He seemed supportive but now he's gone too. He and I broke up over relationship problems.

As for the wedding day, I think the ideas are great. I know on my special day someday, I will have a boquet of white roses with one red one in the center. Erika loved red roses. I also wear a charm with her picture on my neck everyday.

I lost my Mom in "85" and I still think about her alot. I think big events in our life especially a wedding would cause you to think of her more. Of course you would have liked her to be there. That is only natural. I like what the person said about taking something with you to the wedding (borrow, new, blue). I think that is a wonderful idea.

Know in your heart that your mom would only wish you happiness. Maybe you can dedicate your altar flowers to her passing, and add an extra candle and her picture on your altar ceremony. Then, she will be with all of you in your hearts and souls. I hope things will get better for you. Peace will eventually come. I hope you get better. Just try to think more optimistically about how much your mother loved you. That's what I do when I want to remember my brother, I also help suicidal people. That also helps ease my pain. Hope you get better soon.

Princess

You could also read something about your mother in your ceremony and the love that you have for her. You could also have someone sing her favorite song in your ceremony. These are just a few extra ideas. You could decorate your wedding using her favorite colors. You could invite one of your friends who was a friend of your mom and she could read the piece and sing the song. I bet that would make her friend and you feel good. Hope you feel better soon.