I am not sure where to really begin, but here goes. Back on Aug 3 my dad had to have a colonscopy. That day he complained about how bad he hurt. He has had several of them and never mentioned the others hurting. (this one was performed at a different hospital and different Dr) For the next several days he said he hurt and refused to eat or drink or get out of bed. He said once that he wished someone would bring in a baseball bat and get him out of his misery. Now it is not like my dad to complain, so if he does then he is really HURTING!!!!! This goes on until Saturday the 8th (the day after my surgery) he goes back to the ER and was admitted, to look for the source of the pain. On xray a blockage was seen in his intestines....upon further investigation a hole was found. The Dr told me that he had multiple absesses or pus pockets in his large intestine....and the hole.(from the coloenscopy) The Dr wanted to see the labs the next day and he probably would be headed to the OR. Sure enough my dad was taken into Emergency Surgery the next morning, he had most of his large intestine removed and part of his small intestine. They did have to put in a colostmy bag. With his age and heath problems we knew he would be in ICU for a couple of days. But today is day 5 and he is still in ICU and on the ventalator. They have tried to turn it down and he started to have problems breathing so they started it back. They stopped the sedation Friday afternoon and he never responded.....They said his Kidney function is less than what it should be to help him get the sedation out of his system. So then yesterday I find out that they started it back because they felt he was in some distress. He is so swollen...his arms and hands dont even look like my dads. Some of the nurses say that all of this is nornal with abdominal surgery.....BUT there is 2 on the night shift that agree that all of this is not looking good. One even gave me a poem entitled "May I Go" .....a poem about letting a loved one "GO" during time of suffering. This is killing me. I want to go visit but ICU has specific hours and it is hard to find anyone to keep my DD so I can go up there.....(Hubby works 1st and I work 2nd...I just returned form my surgery) I want to be up there but I had to return to work today. This is so hard...and the Dr that punctured the hole never mentioned that he did it!!!!! Could action be taken for this?..........I just am not ready to loose my dad and this looks just like what happened when I lost my mom??
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